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writes:I've been talking to this guy for about a month, and recently started seeing him for about a week. However, I don't know if he's looking for anything serious or not, and I don't want to ask and make things awkward. A mutual friend of ours, told me that he's not looking for anything serious, and just wants sex.However, when I'm with him, he doesn't seem like that at all. But then again, I could just be falling for the act.The first time we met, he was lovely. We spoke for hours about anything and everything, he was sweet and polite, and walked me home. He kept smiling and staring at me, and whenever I'd ask why, he'd just say that he can't help but look at me. We ended up kissing but nothing more.Then, for the next few days he was a bit quieter than usual. He didn't message me as much, and seemed less interested in talking to me.However, after a few days, he suggested we see each other again, and I agreed. He works from 7am-10pm, so he's rarely free, and in our small town, there's not much to do anyway. So the other night I went round to his flat, and we sat on the sofa talking for hours again, watched a movie, and the next thing we know it's 2am. (Bear in mind he has to get up at 6!) So I told him I'd go home and let him sleep etc, but he insisted that I stayed, as he didn't want me walking home alone at that time, and neither of us drive. With a little hesitation, I agreed. We hopped into bed, and ended up kissing again for a while, but again, nothing more happened, and we fell asleep. When we woke up in the morning, he was being really cute, kissing and cuddling me, and insisting I stay in bed a little longer while he gets his work things ready. Then, when he was ready to go, and as I was about to get up to leave, he insisted I stayed at his flat until a more suitable time to go home (it was 6:30am). He gave a kiss and told me to message him later (a bit like what happened last time as we said our goodbye's). However, this time, after about 10 minutes of him leaving, he messaged me already, and spoke to me briefly throughout the day while he was at work. He seemed happy and keen to be talking to me, and so I thought that maybe things were going to be different to the last time I saw him.However, I was wrong. After that day, he's been quiet again, and barely talking, just the odd quick message here and there. And I really don't know what to think. Like I know he's a busy guy, but why is he so keen to talk to me up until we meet up, and then blanks me for a few days until we next decide to meet? We have such a great time together, and he brings that up over and over again, so I know it can't be that he doesn't enjoy my company. Any advice would be appreciated [Moderator Note: For additional background, please refer to an earlier question submitted by the OP]http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-can-tell-hes-trying-to-change-but.html
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reader, Roboaxe  +, writes (30 November 2015):
 Honestly, if he just wanted sex, he would've pushed for it already. He had you in his bed and he didn't pursue it. Don't worry about things like frequency of text messaging, the fact of the matter is that he is contacting you, and that indicates interest. The blanking for a few days is a common tactic that every guy advises every other guy to do. Wait 2-3 days to contact the girl to build her anticipation up. I think it's silly, but remember you can always initiate contact as well. You aren't in a committed relationship either, and you are free to flirt with other guys too in case he is acting too distant for your tastes. But if you like him, he seems like a good person, and his actions don't scream "booty call" kind of guy to me. I say keep hanging out with him for now, not everybody knows from the get go if something is going to be serious or not. Good luck!
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