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writes:HiI answered few questions of the group... all of them related to relationship with a married woman. My question is to seek ways to come out of the feelings left out in my mind even after I stopped the relationship. Really shattered. I sometimes feel like I have committed a serious sin. The fact is that I am unable to come out of the thoughts about her. Still I feel she is the most wonderful woman I ever met. Too much involved emotionally. I assume for her it was a fun though she pretended the other way! Help please
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): I met a married woman and we fell deeply in love...She moved in with me ...She told her husband she was in love with me and left immediately...Since she moved in she has been distant and at times sad..He ex husband tries to man handle her when he is alone with her...Very sick...Now Im stuck with this beautiful woman that I adore but shes so twisted Im not sure what to do..Now she is living with me..She laughs at the the sick advances he puts her threw...He even threw her on a bed and tried to have his way with her..She claims nothing happened...HMMMmmm, I wonder..this is a sexually driven woman ...Now Im unhappy and only get bits and pieces of emotions from her,,,nothing like it was when we were hiding...Im sick of all this..This is the first time Ive ever had an affair with a married woman...She plays emotional games and finds them funny...Im a mess...I want my head to be clear but she sucks me into her sick games...
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reader, PSP2009 +, writes (28 February 2009):
PSP2009 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for some valuable points you made.Here i am trying to give some more clarity to my question.I am a a guy who never married.Whatever affection i had ,in my mind ,just i put on this lady.Probably that played a significant role in devoloping this state of mine.Believe me i had been to psychologists and councellors many times,but for a while it seems ok, again back to her....it is unbearable.Just i am struggling ....
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009): I'm sorry you are having such inner turmoil. People change over time as do their feelings for one another. The problem is that when you are married, even though the initial spark may be gone, the fact is you've invested a lot of time in the relationship and you hate to feel it has failed. You have expressed this other woman is the most wonderful woman you have ever met, and thus the conflict begins. My thoughts are two fold...You obviously were seeking something to satisfy a need you weren't getting fulfilled in your marriage or you would not have began the 'ship' whatever it was with this other woman. Secondly, life is so very short.. are we not entitled to some happiness? I guess you will have to ask yourself is your marriage worth compromising to seek this other woman again and further, take yourself to the future...if you were to be with this other woman on a full time devoted basis, would she give you what your marriage has and that which you still think about with regard to her? Oh, and there is one more possibility, but seems like it would make you zany and that is...you could continue the affair with her, but, do you want the stress of always trying to be discrete sitting on your shoulder? So tough this is. I guess if this other woman finds you equally as wonderful and that is what you want, you need to make a choice as you can't have your cake and eat it too. I am sorry if this sounds harsh, just trying to lay out the facts for you.
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