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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:A man I'm dating still loves his ex. I really enjoy his company and he says he has feelings for me too. How should I deal with this?Backstory: We started hanging out before I moved out of my ex’s home. The first time we hang out he told me he was in love with his ex. At this point I wasn’t expecting much of anything from him (except friendship) so we continued to hang out. Eventually, I left my ex’s home (after we decided on property division and such). This relationship was devoid of love and I was happy to leave after finally having the resources to do so. I continued to hang out with the new guy for a few months eventually we developed feelings. However, he would not sleep with me due to his feelings for his ex (btw she lives very far away now). He told that he feels quite bad, because he has feelings for me but that they still talk, lovingly, every night and he’s planning on going to see he to get closure fairly soon. He wants me to stay around and stay with him until then and maybe our relationship will be able to go to next level then. I’m happy that he has always been honest; I actually like him and enjoy being around him but I don’t want to be used as a rebound or get too hurt. So what do I do? Should I keep him just as a friend? Do I stay with him in the hopes that things work out well? Should I tell him that he has to make up his mind and either get over her or I’ll leave so he can be with her? Should I just give him time to figure out what he needs? Should I just forget about him all together and cut it now?
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