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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:i went to a new school, to get a new start and Cass was my very first friend. A couple days after we met she started talking about this guy, and how he liked him, but he was 18 (we are 15)! i said if you like him back go for it! A few days later i met him, and started to really like him. Then they started dating. A few months later he addmitted to me that he liked me, and i like him, but he loved Cass. So i just left it, but then things started reminding me of him, and every time i saw him i got this bubbly feeling and act like a complete dork.My other friend told me i was in love... and now i'm where i am at, but the problem is, she told me that she didn't like him at first, she only started to date him because he liked her. what do i do? i'm so lost and i really dont want to change schools again... Help!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Abella  +, writes (8 January 2011):
 When we are young the concept of sharing is very normal. We go shopping, we both see a top we like, so we both buy the same top. Nothing wrong with that.
Or our friend chooses to join a group, so we too, so friends can all join in the fun in the group.
But there is one taboo. Friends share partners, even discarded partners, at their peril. To do so causes too much awkwardness. Increases tension. And it is not worth it.
Two friends, especially best friends, want the best for each other. So why, (if one partner has been discarded, or is the one doing the discarding) is the best friend to receive discarded cast offs?
NEVER is the answer if, long term, you want to keep the best friend. Best friends are very important people in our lives. They are to be supported, respected and cherished.
There are so many available people, of all ages, in this world that there should never be a need to share our former or current partners with our best friends. And our best friend should never attempt it either.
It makes things so uncomfortable.
Find another guy. And keep your
friendship with your best friend intact.
'In love?' people have no right to 'tell you' that you are in love. When you have more
experience then you will know when you are really in love. As opposed to like, or like a real ly
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