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writes:Ok im in the middle of a very messy situation at the moment! kind of a love triangle thing and i dont know what to do. From the outside looking in im probably going to look quite bad (i know i feel it) but any knid of advice on what to do here would really be a big help. Ive been with my gf( well ex now as ive just finished it with her )for 2 and a half 3 months, ive tried for around the last month but i just dont feel the same way about her as she does me so i had to end it as its only fair on her and i feel really terrable about it.( theres reasons i dont want to be with her like she gets quite jealous and things, but i woont get into all that)In the last few weeks she's had a new girl house mate(she lives in a shared house) weve all been hanging out together, theres been an attraction between her house mate and i(somthing which me an my gf never had)So anyways at the weekend we were all hanging out at the house having a few drinks, it started getting late and id had quite a bit to drink, so i went off to bed, so then like 15 mins later the girls come in and wake me up! next thing i know were having a threesome!!! Im thinking like where has thins come from, my gfs always been hinting she wanted to do this and of course being a guy and having had a few to drink wasnt exactly opposed to it although did think this would be a bad idea, so anyways..Whilst this was going on the attraction between me and her house mate heated up and we got a little carried away, so the gf starts flipping out and attacking us! so we had to end it and get the hell out of there, she(her house mate) had no where to go and couldnt stay there so we went back to mine and crashed out (didnt carry on though just went to sleep) Her house mates now staying with her friend and ive ended it with my gf. we spoken but havent seen each other since. Its important to understand that me and her house mate would never have acted on our emotions if this threesome hadnt hapened! but now it has and unfortunetly its one of those the heat want what the heart wants kinda things. So the ex gfs moving out of the house and her house mate is looking for somewhere elese whilst she staying at her friend's.Obviosly not now but after the dust settles down the line would it be possible for us (me and her house mate to get together) and things work out? We both feel really bad about the whole situation but the connection is there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): Don't lie -you would have got with the housmate even if the threesome did not happen becuase you were obviously attracted to her and vice versa. you obviously wanted to and the threesome was the excuse. your (ex) girlfriend is hurting right now because you betrayed her - both of you did. when the dust settles yes you can still get with the housemate but know you are young and you have more wild oats to sow before you find the one. With the housemate it is just sexual attraction, nothing more. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): Yes ...its possible...and in the annals of love its a good a start as any. be happy.
Understand why former GF upset....but life goes on.
Star.x.
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