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writes:Ok this is a long read so im saying sorry now....It started a few months ago i met this girl who lets say is called sue (Not real name)who I really got on with (I was with Jane (not real name) at this point who i did cheat on with sue ) (Not happy about doing that)But want you guys to know the truth. So me and jane broke up at which point i started seeing sue. We got on great at first there was a few things that i didnt like and rather then keep them from her i told her. She said ill see what i can do all was fine untill For no reson she started being mean which in turn caused me to ask question's (Is there someone else) blah blah blah she told me before se started seeing each other she has very funny moods that can last for ages. I didnt like the fact she spoke to her ex's and she had a prob with me talking to mine so i said i would stop if she did. We both agreed and that was that till out of the blue she said she was going to start talking to them now but she still had a prob with me talking to mine. I left this for awhile and asked her if she had any contact with her's to which she said no. I didnt feel to sure about this so i logged on to her facebook and checked for myself. She had contact with one of them. I gave her the chance to tell me and she never. 4times she lied about having no contact with him. So i started talking to my ex's again and when she asked if i had spoke to them i said yes i have. Her reply was i knew you would crack before i did im going to talk to mine now. I told her i knew she had and that peed her off. We had a big row and it took awhile for things to get even a little bit better. As time went on i asked more and more questions for the fact that i knew she had lied to me before. Well now we have got to a stage where we are no longer together. But she has said she wants to be friends for now and see what happens stating that if its ment to be it will happen. Before i carry on i would like to add the fact that when i was with her she said i could have one night stands cos i have not slept with many people and she thought i was going to do it behind her back anyway I said no to this and really to this day not know why she said that?? (more then once) Thinking she wanted to but when i asked her she said no i have been there done that. so we get to now we ant together she dont know if anything is going to happen btw us. Last night i asked if i could come round she said no she was out. Yet again i had a funny feeling so i went round there and knocked on the door. She was in and she says she was in the bath,(as i asked her why she was naked) I asked if she had someone else in there and she said no. so i sat in the car and called her to talk while i was on the phone one of her ex's drove past. I dont know weather he would have stopped if he had not seen me. She went out with him and her best mate on this nt he dropped her best mate off first then her and her best mate meet them at the pub. Now she told me from day one that she would not be alone with him because of the fact he is a ex but yet she did. (She dont know i know this) She has told me she dont want her ex's back in that way she only wants them as friends. She has told me that she loves me more then she has loved anyone else and that she dont want anyone else other then me. She has something very big coming up that means the world to her and she said my questions was not making her life easy ( One of the resons we broke up she says)and the fact that my ex sent her emails saying stuff that i have no clue about and sue reckons i have lied to her. Nothing like cheating i would never cheat on sue i learnt from doing it to jane (Which she found out and was why she started emailing sue) I called her best mate cos she did not want to talk to me and i needed to talk to someone. He drove to me and we talked about everything while we was in the car a few streets down the same ex drove past again. Now her best mate says he does that (stalker) But i dont know what to belive. Well after last night i told her i would give her space and time to think about what she wants I told her i love her and that i only want her and that all i asked from her is to tell me if she done something with anyone else so i would know that its time to move on. So for the next 10days im not having any contact with her unless she contacts me. It her birthday soon after that and i already brought her gifts so i want her to have them. Which is why its only 10days. I just dont know where i stand she says she loves me wants no one else and only wants me yet its not right right now. Can someone help me please. Do i give her space and time and see what happens or do i just never see her again?? Last thing she has a kid and she says i can still see him (as we got close) but i dont know if i can. The love i have for her i cant be around her as a friend? But at the same time i love her child and he has done nothing wrong. End of the day we both love each other we both want each other so why cant it be now? Could it really be because of her big thing coming up?Can anyone help please? And i dont want shes sleeping around comments on here as i already have all the bad thoughts going though my head. So can someone please give me the good things to think about to at least get me though the 10days.Thank you in advance Anonymous
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reader, shguy33  +, writes (26 May 2009):
their is nnothing goid to say sorry. she lies and that's not good at all. if u know u deserve better you will move on. she wants to talk to her exes let her. an ex is a ex that past and if she's stuck in her past then her future which is you is not important! sorry!
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