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writes: So here goes, Basically I met this girl whom I had a long distance relationship with. It was everything I ever dreamed of and we were gonna make our lives together.We talked for many hours a day, sometimes 5hours, sometimes 10hrs. We made it work for many months but I guess after 8 months she just fell out of love. She became distant and stopped saying she loved me. When I confronted her she said she didn't know what was going on. I asked her "do u not love me so much anymore?" Well it went down from there and we broke up. We agreed to be friends and she said i was like her best friend. I didn't see her after alot of days, maybe a week or 2. We started to talk again. The thing is that I still loved her but I've been doing my best to get over her and move on. About 3 weeks later she told me she was moving to where her mom and dad lived because she was too lonely living by herself. Pretty weird since they never got along but she said her dad changed. Anyway the current situation is that she is there now. The thing was that many of my friends as well as non-friends were telling me rumors about her. Eventually it got hard to deal with like 2 days ago and I got fed up. I checked my files and found the password to her email. I logged in it and saw she was in a relationship with a guy living quite near to where she moved. I was devastated she didn't tell me. Yes I was jealous as well but seriously mad that she hid this from me. What is even sad to see is like 4days later when me and her broke up, she got an email from him expressing how much he misses her and loves her. That's making me believe that she was cheating on me during our relationship. It prolly shouldn't bother me, but I asked her when we were breaking up, if she was cheating on me. And not once while we were friends did she ever mention him. Because of the lies it makes me think about so many things she said to me and now I think it was all lies. So I emailed her my hatred and said mean things. Her reply was basically denying and insisting he was a good friend only. But the emails scream a different story. So basically I just can't trust her any more or expect an honest friendship. What do I do now? Do I ask her one last time for honesty? I still love her enough to forgive her enough though I said otherwise in my hate mail. If she's not honest with me I think I will just confess that I read her emails. What do you people think? I want to be over this pain of losing her esp for a second time. I just don't know the right choice or how to proceed from here. I think the hate mail was a bad idea but I was really at my ends. Just what can I do now? I don't want to feel any more worse than I do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I think I gave up on what ever hope I had with her and I wont expect much from being friends with her. I have to move on and just accept things as they are. Many people though say "there are many other women out there" and yet few actually do meet someone they can really love again. I don't know everything but from what i DO know, life is too short, and there are better people in my life than her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): just forget her she doesn't deserve a person like you.
there are many other girls on earth.. u can start by meeting new people
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