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writes:How do I get my husband to open up? We are apart and most of our conversations are over the internet. Though I can't get him to open up I will ask him about what he would like to do or go on vacation? he says as long as I am with you! I ask him to tell me something sexy? I get a vague answer it goes on and on with any subject I we talk about. I have asked him to elaborate he does not. He never tells me anything either. He is building a computer or had and I did not know till like a few days ago. I saw him in Nov so I don't know how he did not even let me know it was an idea or a project under way, it concerns me because it happens with important subjects like finances and planning for going home. It also concerns me because it makes me doubt our marriage of little over a year and apart most of it? Please help me understand or what I should do
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 You need to know what are his interest and hobbies and what he is an expert in.It could be men's topics like sports , news, work.
You need to find some of your own activities and you do not have to depend on him solely.Find some of your friends and you can satisfy your urge to communicate.
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Tricky subject, i was very much like him for a long time and it took someone i was willing to adjust for to change me. I would never talk to girls, i just was terrified of the idea until i became physically sick from being in love with someone and having no contact with them for months then i started opening up from there. But in your case you will need to make it worth his while to get him to open up bribe him or show him how importnent it is to you to talk to you about important things.
We dont know how important it is unless you tell us, unless we know otherwise from experience and some guys dont know. I was raised around a lot women and spared these problems. If that doesnt work you may have to consider finding someone else or dealing with it.
I hope i helped
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