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writes:I'm in a LDR. We talk every week on Skype and get on very well and in September when I was staying close to where he lives (have my mother and other friends there) we went out and about quite a lot during the 6 weeks. I'll be going back in April. We have a lot in common (particularly church) and always very enjoyable whether in person or online.He did have a gf who lives on the "other side of the world" and though they met once, haven't in person since. (Neither can afford to travel). She went to Australia in the summer and he said he hadn't heard from her for months despite leaving messages. Still hasn't and its likely she decided not to continue.He was being flirtatious with me but not now and that's because I sent a message to say I look forward to being intimate when/if the other relationship gets sorted out (I will not if they were to continue - on principle). We talked about it, and its alright, but yet I would like to think the possibility exists for us to become more than friends, in time. Certainly we both value what we have now, he's made that clear.My question is that if someone once becomes distant (according to an article I read)you can "re-ignite" things - but others comments on the article said you can't. I'm confused - what do you guys think? (And we remain very friendly; certainly not distant).
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwornoutmommy,
Thanks for your response. To answer your question: He's not gay. We met at the church he's active in, and where I attend when visiting England. He lives with his elderly mother and works part-time. In thinking it over, I realize that everything is fine; I was feeling a little "blue" and frustrated over one or two other matters - not connected in any way with my friend - when I wrote.
Again, my thanks - and all the best to you both when your guy re-enlists! It does sound as though your relationship is very strong, and I expect everything will continue to be well with you.
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reader, wornoutmommy +, writes (27 January 2011):
 Ok, My man will be re-enlisting in the Army and this will put us in a LDR, but we're both in our late-20's and capable of handling the jealousy/concern that will arise during his tours. Is this simply a LDR or is it this way because of a current situation? Di you meet online or via person? I had a co-worker that began a LDR online and he came here to be with her shortly. She ended up getting pregnant and he moved back to his parents 600 miles away. She gets no child support and now the child is fatherless. Keep this in mind. Her relationship was going very well too, talking everyday via email/phone and txting. Then poof! Baby=disappearing father. If he's become distant after you brought up sex, he's probably not comfortable with the idea. Is it possible that he is gay; that by having LDRs he does not have to engage in sexual relations but having a LDR is a cover to his family? Typically guys in a lDR will ask for nude photos or want to 'chat privately'; has he requested either of these or has it just been talking? Good luck!
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