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writes:I want to move away from this small town. I recently spent almost the entirety of my savings paying off my medical bills, so I don’t have those to worry about anymore. I have about $1k in the bank now. I’ve never had a job, though not for lack of trying, and I live with my mom. I’m completely dependent on her and I just need a change. This is a very small town, and jobs are nonexistent it seems. I’ve branched out to a bigger city about an hour away, still nothing. So I tried another fairly big city an hour away in the opposite direction – nothing. The only thing I’ve been able to find is pharmacy type jobs (like Wallgreens, CVS) and even then, the answer I got was “We’re sorry, we’re holding these positions for high school students, so they have a foot in the working world while in school.” That was depressing beyond belief. I couldn’t get a job in high school because of my medical issues. It’s not for lack of trying, I’ve been out there everyday for months scouting for jobs. There’s honestly nothing here, at least not for entry level work. I have very little college experience, and I’m starting to feel like that doesn’t count for anything because no one is willing to give me a shot.I’m getting frustrated with the people I’m surrounded with. My moms mind is starting to slip, and it’s getting out of control to the point that she blames me for her problems. Which is fine, I know she’s using me as an outlet for her stress. She’s never violent or anything, it’s just arguing back and forth. It tears my nerves apart. I have a very close-knit group of friends. Recently, they’ve all started abusing drugs. It’s painful being around them. I have no attachment to this town anymore it seems. It feels like if I don’t get out now, I’m going to be stuck, it feels like depression is going to swallow me whole if I keep on this path.I recently took a trip to Louisville, KY to meet up with an ex boyfriend. We’re not romantically involved or anything, but we’re really good friends. He’s a sweetheart and he’s always quick to offer emotional support. I think something might develop between him and I if I were to be closer to him, but that’s a secondary goal at this point. He took me around the city to show me around and there were at least 5 different places with “Now hiring” in the window. I was blown away. Not only would I be able to get a job in Louisville, but there’s a campus of the school that I was enrolled in and at some point I would be able to go back and finish my degree. I like the idea of being in Louisville.How do I make it happen? With only 1k in savings and bad credit (stolen identity a few years ago) how in the world would I be able to do this? How do people make that transition? Do they find a job first and then make the move or move and then hope for a job? Any experience or tips are welcome.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): Well I'm 28 and can offer some wisdom as I've moved from Vancouver Canada to Modesto, CA to Edinburgh Scotland and no back to the bay area, CA all since 2007.
I had a degree already when I moved, but whenever I moved I always made sure there was a point to it. In Modesto I had a job, in Edinburgh I had school and then back to the bay area for a job. It took something like 6 months to get each job, so planning ahead is key.
Then, you go on craigslist and find a housemate under the shared housing section. You'd probably be able to find a room with housemates for $300 in a small town/city.
Then you move, move into your apartment and start work right away.
Once you're working, its really important you go back to school as soon as possible (even two classes at a time). There is financial aid available. Look into jobs like dental hygienists/assistants, CNA, nursing.... these jobs pay really well (over $20 an hour in your area).
And then you go from there. Life is hard, but all it takes is some planning and sacrifice. It'll be hard juggling school and work, but if you are studying in the right area, things will only get better and better.
I hope this helps and that things work out for you!
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reader, Ed12345  +, writes (20 December 2010):
Is there somebody you can move in with in Louisville? Perhaps you can live with your ex-boyfriend or one of his friends?
In Britain, we had a very large influx of Polish workers a few years ago. They moved here first, then got the jobs, and that's a move between countries.
So I'd advise you to move first.
It's become increasingly common in London for people to move in with someone they don't even know, answering adverts online for housemates. This is because housing costs are so expensive in London that most people just can't afford to live alone anymore. They make this sacrifice because they're so desperate to find a job in London. I don't know how common that is in America but, if it can work over here, it can work over there.
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