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writes: I am 14 and recently spoke to this guy who's 21 at an art gallery. We write each other letters and things and talk on the phone occasionally and on msn and things, although I never see him as he lives quite far away. The thing I'm worried about, well not worried but shocked about, is that he has said he is in love with me. I know everyone will think he's doing it for sex etc etc blah blah blah, but he genuinely feels that way. I have spoken to his mum and things about it. He says he wants to spend the rest his life with me. He is in a wheelchair and says he does not want to be a burden to me. I think he is amazing but I'm not quite sure what's going on or what to do. I'm confused. If anyone's got any advive that would be a great help. thankyou xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): hi im faith im kind of in ur position too, but im 15 almost 16 and i also like a 21 year old, we arnt in love or anything and we arnt really dating eather but we are hanging out and my mother hates it. she says hes only hanging out with me because he wants sex bla bla bla but he is not that way eather. she thinks if i give in and have sex with him then she thinks hes gonna leave and not talk to me any more and i hate how shes judgeing him with out even knowing him the only thing is with ur problem is do u love him? if u love him so much and know for a fact that he loves you then go for it mybe just wait on the marriage thing, that doesnt mean u cant love him or anything and pluse of he really loves you he will understand and he will wait for you ok but i g2g i hope i helped a little
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reader, Seratuki  +, writes (20 July 2006):
 Well...
I'm not going to sit here and try to down-play how you feel...but you don't sound like YOU feel the same way...which is the most important thing...
Do you jus want someone to be with? are you just flattered and a bit confused about this?
I really suggest you take a step back and speak to a family member or other trusted adult about this.
This is the sort of thing that can get out of hand very easily...please, be careful...
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2006): No, No, No, When I was 14 I was in a hurry to grow up, but as the years went past you realise you dont even know who you are for a long time. Alot changes between 14 and 21. And as someone who has experiences someone in a wheel cahir is a burden, someone with any disability is life limiting to you and to them, only when you have lived a bit of your life can you decide what bits are important to you to know which bits you would miss. Be his friend, be your own friend first
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (20 July 2006):
 Sweetie, you are confused as you are too young to deal with these sorts of emotions. Confide in YOUR mum and ask for guidance. Do not do anything because you feel sorry for him or pressured by what he wants.
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