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writes:A guy I work with (who is my supervisor) has a major crush on me. I dont like him like that and I dont know how to turn him down. I really dont want to upset him. He seems to really like me alot. I feel bad for not telling him straight up straight away, but I thought if I gave him some subtle hints it would save us from the awkward confrontation when I tell him I dont like him like that.Ive told him I still have feelings for my ex and high hopes to get back together. Yet he is still making moves on me. I told him I just want to be frineds but he still asks me out on dates. Im running out of things to say to him...He wants to go to the movies this weekend. He said he will pick me up and he will pay. I told him that sounds like a date and that i dont want to date, i just want to be friends, and he said 'its not a date if u dont want it to be'. But it sure sounds like to me it is! He is my supervisor at work and I am afraid that if I come out and say it straight that I dont like him like that, that he might be unfair to me at work. Ive had that happen to me before. And im to embarrassed to tell our head boss (if that did happen). any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): Just tell him straight, otherwise, your beating around the bush and partially to blame. He may see a sign of hope by what your doing. You need to stand tall and tell him your not interested, that you didn;t take a job to find a date, that you need your space outside of work for yourself.
Telling him you don't date people from work is not the best way to deal with it if it isn't true. It might be true in this case, but if it could be true elsewhere, it is best not to even mention it. Just think, either he quits or your fired, and he now sees you in public. Now what would you say. Don't beat around the bush, be honest with your feelings and just tell him your not interested, that you like him as a coworker/supervisor, but you feel no connection with him to expand on a relationship with him beside work. Ask that he stop pushing you and making you feel more uncomfortable. If he gets mad and tries to take it out on you latter, explain it to his boss. If you end up having to find another job, then so be it, this could be sexual harrassment!
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reader, I care  +, writes (6 April 2008):
 Tell him that you don't date people you work with cuz if it don't work out than your caught in a daily awkward mess and that you both don't want that so lets just remain friends and you would apreciate it if he could respect your decission by not asking you out anymore.
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