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writes:Ok there's this guy I work with a few years older to myself, who is also single, who I get the impression may be attracted to me. He is only at my work place twice a month - he works at another store. He always tries to talk to me and I feel he looks right into my eyes when talking. One time we'd stopped talking and were both just kind of smiling at each other, looking at each other but not saying anything till I said I had better get back to work............ When I was stood near to him telling him about some work he said "you like garlic?" And I said "yes!!!" And blushed like crazy and he said "it's ok I like the smell of garlic!! Garlic is good" with a smile on his face and we both were a bit goofy! Then one time I had to email him to inform him there was a lot of paperwork to be done next time he comes over and he said - "I will look forward to it" and I said "haha I bet you will!" And he replied "I am a workaholic and I like the smell of garlic" But thing is,,, he doesn't really seem nervous when seeing me or interacting and I do get SO so nervous- blush, stumble on my words, awkward etc, etc so does that mean he's not as attracted to me as I am him ?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (18 August 2014):
 If you want to know if he is attracted to you why can't you ask him?
why the game?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2014): To so confused ,
I am the original author of this post but sorry I am confused also. I don't understand your question? I just want to know whether or not he is attracted to me
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reader, MSA +, writes (18 August 2014):
 I find that in a business/professional environment, people want to be friendly to co-workers. They will find something both have in common (in your case - garlic) and use that as a bridge between two people. This may not necessarily mean he is INTERESTED in you in the way you are thinking. He is merely being friendly and making communication and working with you more pleasant. Maybe also because he notices that you get nervous around him... so he is trying to get you to be less nervous. He is also older, hence he won't be as nervous.You only see him a couple times a month. Don't think too much about it. Enjoy the times you both get to work together and if he is sincerely interested in you, he will definitely make it clear and let you know. In the meantime, don't over think the situation which will cause you to be more nervous.Good luck!
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reader, lifesgreat +, writes (18 August 2014):
not being nervous or being nervous around you doesn't mean much.
If I like a girl I can be a cluts around them and some girls I don't fancy I am not a cluts around.
But some people are different and act the same when they fancy somebody .
Just hint that you like him next time you see him and see what happens
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 August 2014):
More and More on Dear Cupid I am amazed at what folks use as ways to determine if someone is interested in them or not.
Just because he talks to you does not mean he wants to date you
Just because he doesn't get nervous and stammer around you does not mean he DOES NOT want to date you either.
Truth be told dating co-workers is a very BAD idea for the most part.
so what's the REAL question since his being attracted to you is really secondary to what you REALLY want to know isn't it?
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (18 August 2014):
Not everyone blushes or gets tongue tied when they're talking to someone they find attractive but I would say he definitely doesn't find you as attractive as you find him.
He's friendly, he makes good eye contact, he engages in a bit of witty banter - all of these indicate that he likes you but not that he is attracted to you.
If he's single and a confident guy, he'll ask you out if he finds you attractive - not just engage in witty banter. Or he'll accept if YOU ask him out.
To be honest, these "does he fancy me?" questions are impossible to answer without knowing the people involved and with only one persons account of the scenario.
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