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writes:I have a question about penile extensions. What are they made from, can the man feel sex while wearing one? Do they add thickness or just length? Has anyone had experiences with them and if so, was it positive or negative and why? My husband's penis is 5" and it's I guess average thickness but lately it's not doing it for me. I used to be able to get off during sex with him as long as I was on top but now I can't even really feel it. No I don't use sex toys or have sex with anyone else, so I don't know why this is happening. Maybe because I am not mentally turned on. It could also have to do with my having a 16 month old and a 5 month old. Maybe the "trauma" did something to my nerves in there? Do you think my husband would be offended if I suggested a penis extention? I cannot get off with oral or fingering..
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2008): I understand your frustrations.. and obviously love your husband, so don't want to hurt him. I think any suggestion that he wear an extension will be extremely delicate and require utmost tact. Think about it long and hard before you bring it up, and know what you're going to say. You may want to frame it as needing to talk to him sometime. Make him dinner one night, and then after dinner, tell him you love him, and that sex with him, your husband, is very important to you. Tell him you're interested in trying new things that he might want to try, sexually. If and when you try those new things, he will probably ask you about YOU and what YOU would like to try. At that point, you can tell him that you would like to try having him watch you use a dildo. And make it a dildo of the size you would like. While you're doing it, ask him if he would do it to you... and when he says yes, bring out the strap on. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008): No really I am not stretched out, he gets off really fast so obviously there is nothing wrong with my vagina..I just get frusterated that I don't enjoy it and he gets off 2 times usually. Oh well. I guess I offended the male readers but I am just trying to figure a way to enjoy sex again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): Would you be offended if your husband started calling you 'Mrs. Big-Cunt'?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 August 2008):
 Hi, I think any man would be offended if you suggested that his penis is too small and not 'doing it' for you.
Might I suggest that you have a chat and a check up with your gynecologist; it is possible that two vaginal births have diminished sensation for you through the trauma.
It seems to me that the only one who has experienced change in your body is you, through pregnancy and delivering two children, and therefore it makes sense to try to 'fix' you first, before suggesting something like a penile extension to your husband. After all, he's always been the size he's been, he hasn't changed, has he?
As far as oral or fingering (why do I dislike that word?) go, maybe practicing more might not be a bad idea? You might actually learn new ways of reaching climax. I'm not saying you have to do this, but your attitude seems to be, 'I'm not getting off, it must be his fault.' I think he might quite rightly find this insulting and simply not fair. Sorry.
As far as not being mentally into it, maybe you could try a date night kind of thing where you know you'll be having sex and you can work yourself up to it all day. Send the kids to their grandparents or hire a sitter and get a hotel room. Just a thought.
I do hope that you find help for whatever has changed and you get back to enjoying sex again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): I think 5" is just a little below average. He would probably be offended though.
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reader, Replacement  +, writes (28 August 2008):
 Clearly his penis size isn't the problem, so a penile extension isn't the answer. Maybe you should look at the real root cause of the issue instead of focussing on this- the stuff you listed: not mentally turned on, having two young children. If your vagina is stretched out, maybe shrinking that is the answer rather than making him bigger? There are surgeries for that too.
Of COURSE he'll be offended if you suggested a penile extension.
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