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writes: I went out last wednesday night with a few mates from college one of them happened to be my ex bf. We met up in a pub my current bf came out too, When i first got in there i felt so awkward especially since me and my ex dont get on very well atall only since my current bf has been on the scene.My bf needed to get the last bus home but the rest of us went onto a few other pubs, when we finally found one we like i went to order a few drinks and my ex just flicking my hair and poking me which didnt bother me too much, after a while all of us were feeling pretty drunk and decided to move onto a club when we got in and bought a drink my ex told me to come and sit by him away from our mates i was pretty reluctant especially since whats happened in the past between us but i gave him the benefit of the doubt and we got talking and we both got on really well but then he started trying to feel me up and every available opportunity, made remarks towards my current relationship and kept shutting my phone down. I did feel uncomfortable but im some weird way it felt right.Even when my mate sat down next to us to kept trying to get my attention by giving me looks and touching me but i didnt give in.I did agree to dance with him and it felt so weird to be dancing this close to my ex but i carried on cause i really enjoyed it, at one point he even tried to hold my hand and i resisted even though i really wanted to cause it felt like old times.I'm glad i got to spend this time with him cause its nice for a change not to be arguing!! the only problem is i dont feel much for my current bf anymore i think the spark has gone and would rather be single. I am going out again at the same time next week and hopefully he will be there now do i tell him how i feel and try and make a move or do i hope for the best and wait and see what happens???
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2006): I think that maybe the ex boyfriend was showing that he can still get you even though your bf was there. If you didn't have your current bf i wonder if the ex would have shown you the same attention. Remember the way you say you hope the ex is out next week may be just the excitement because your relationship is a bit stale, if you don't feel the same about your bf let him know but don't make it an excuse to go with your ex because believe me as soon as he knows he's got you he will turn and run and always try and think why did you split in the first place and would you really want to go through that again. My advice is if you feel you are bored with your relationship then get out of it and play the field a bit. Hope everything works out for you xxx Jill xxx
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reader, VictoriasSecrets  +, writes (10 December 2006):
 Oh no you dont young lady!!!!!!! hold it right there. Now sit down, make a coffee and I want you to go back into the past and look at why it was that he resulted in being your ex in the first place. I think that you b.f. was acting in a slimey manner that night. I mean, who does he think he is?, does he think that he is so gorgeous that he only has to flick your hair and you will up root your life and go running back to him?, and what is the deal with the phone? is he some sort of control freak? I suggest that you stay clear of this man, and that you relight the spark in your current relationship. This ex of yours, is obviously an opportunist, even if you did give in, I get the feeling that before you knew it, it would be spread all around the place, and everybody would know, including your current boyfriend. He would make your name mud, and people will just take the piss out of you. There is an old saying that has never failed me when ever I have found my self in a situation such as yours, and that is. You can only ever go up the ladder, what is the point in going back down? If it didnt work the first time, you must be mad to think that it will work a second time. I also have to tell you that ex b.f. always try their luck when you are in a new relationship, they see it as a challenge, he will get what he wants and end up dumping you anyway, do not give him that satisfaction, do not let him have the last laugh on you.
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