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male
age
41-50,
*WSTUD
writes:Hi, Im in a bit of a dilemna as to whether to ask a girl out or not. The thing is this girl is a nurse at the hospital where my mum is currently staying. My mum is very ill and they are not sure what is wrong with her, and she has been in hospital for 11 weeks now. Im going to the hospital at least 4 times a week to see her, taking turns with my brother. The problem is one of the nurses looking after my mum I find very attractive and I think she likes me too. Im not sure whether to ask her out or not because a) Im there to see my mum and shouldnt be thinking about picking up girls so would it be right to do so? b) If she says she has a bf or says no for any other reason it would make it very awkward for me when I visit my mum in the future. Plus Im very shy anyway and would find it very nerve racking asking her out. Any advice would be much appreciated.Ben
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2009): I am glad to hear your mum is recovering. And that's a lovely idea...you could always leave a note attached with your number ;)
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reader, NWSTUD +, writes (26 September 2009):
NWSTUD is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, thanks for your answers. My mum has just been moved to another ward which means that she wont need surgery anymore. She is getting better but they think she will be in for another 4-6 weeks. I obviousley wont see this nurse again as my mum is now on a different ward but I was thinking of maybe sending her a bunch of flowers or something as a thank you?
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (13 September 2009):
 I think most hospital's disapprove of staff getting involved with patients and their relatives outside work to be honest. It is supposed to be a professional relationship after all. I think you should focus on your mum for now because if you ask her for a date and she says no then you still have to see her and that could be embarrassing. If you really must ask her for a date, wait until your mother is being discharged and do it then - she maybe more inclined to agree if she is no longer caring for her in a professional capacity.
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reader, lauren123?x +, writes (13 September 2009):
personally, i think you should ask one of the other nurses a bit about her, or if you have the guts, ask her if she has a boyfriend herself.
if your mum seems to be getting better anytime take the chance then so you cant feel guilty as your mum will be better and you may be better off, hope this helps,
L x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2009): I agree with A, because you are meant to be there for your mum. So don't ask her out, at least not yet anyway. When your mum leaves hospital (and hopefully makes a full recovery), you could thank the nurse for her help and ask her out for a drink or something to eat then. For now though, concentrate on your mum.
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