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writes: I really like a guy I have been seeing for the last few months, a lot. Things were great until a couple of weeks ago. He has contacted me, but by text only and that was four days ago. He seems to not be so keen as he once was.I did bring up the issue of us - even though we don't know one another very well and think it has made him pull back, as he didn't want to talk about it. Should I wait until he contacts me or should I give him a call? Thank u x
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reader, marie78 +, writes (11 November 2006):
Do not call him. I've made the mistake of calling my ex, and although my ex and I are talking here and there, it's never a good idea. It's going to be hard not contacting him, but if a man is interested in you, he'll call. If he doesn't, then you need to move on. Let him chase you, don't make "catching" you easy. You've mad eit too easy. Men like attention, and once you give it to them, they begin to distance themselves. Move on, and he'll probably contact you eventually. Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2006): If you sense his interest may have waned for some reason, then why would you call him? Don't dwell on this and try not to lose yourself over a young man who is not responding to you and only giving you crumbs. I would hold off saying anything to him though, until you have a more definitive indication of his interest to continue this relationship. If he can't or won't do this quickly..why don't you just move on and don't mope or avoid new and wonderful life experiences for a guy, who likely doesn't care. It's a time waster. Make life count for YOU...have fun and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2006): Sorry to hear about this.....don't know what you said to him when you brought up the issue of "us." Its possible that if you were talking - or remotely hinting, even - of settling down and asking if he is "the one" that he might have been inclined to pull back. That happens to women, too, if a man seems a little TOO keen, sometimes.
You say it has been four days since you last heard from him, and that was just a text message. What did he say to you?
You could wait another four days and if you still haven't heard, phone him or send an email, (rather than a text) and be light and casual, just wondered how you are doing, sort of thing, and see if he responds.
If he does not, you might want to think about moving on.
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