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26-29,
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writes:Hi. I'd been best friends with him for awhile and then started to like him. I told him I liked him. He said he liked another girl. Then a month later he stopped liking her. He came over to my house and we made out a few times. In a couple of weeks he asked me out. A few weeks later I had to go to hospital for a month and couldn't see him. My mum told him where I was, but I guess he still felt pretty clueless. When I came out of hospital, looking forward to see him, I found out he had cheated on me with the girl he use to like. I confronted him, I knew he was going to end it with me. He was crying so much that he couldn't. So I broke up with, just to make it easier. Strangely we still acted the same around each other. Him and the other girl went on a "break". He has come to my house many more times and we've done more than make out (but not sex or anything). I asked him if he is using me, he said yes, but he still cares for me. He gets jealous when our male friends flirt with me. He said if him and the other girl go out and then broke up he'd date me again. I wish he'd go out with her already so I could move on, but since he said that I still wouldn't be able to. I love everything about him. I think deep down he still loves me. I can't stop inviting him over, being with him is addictive. But I want a relationship, not just hook ups. I asked him what he wanted and he said he didn't understand what I meant.Help!! What should I do?!
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reader, Beile  +, writes (25 June 2011):
 Hello,
He's using you. Like what he said.
From what you wrote,
It's looks like he's treating you like a toy.
The possible reason why he gets jealous is that he doesn't
like to share his "toy".
Which is quite much he wants to keep you for his own.
But, his crush comes first.
When they break up, he comes back to you.
It's like as though you're a handkerchief.
When he needs comfort (E.g. Wipe away sweat)
He uses you.
When he's done, he'll leave you aside in his pocket.
It's best to break all contacts with such a person.
Cause in the end, you are only going to get hurt.
Stop inviting him over. No matter how tempting it is.
Just move on, as this guy isn't the right one for you.
Good luck.
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reader, aiii +, writes (25 June 2011):
i kinda understand how you feel like you cant help yourself cause u just revel in the time you guys spend with each other i hate to say it but its unhealthy unless you agree to be friends with benefits however if you do that you will hurt your bf and his gf (if u date )
i hope you sort your problem and remember there are many great guys out there you havent met them all yet :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2011): He IS using you. You come after that girl. Please don't let him come to your house. Stay away from him.
You asked him whether he's using you and he said "yes". There you go. Thats your answer.
You should stop seeing him. Break all contacts with him.
If she deeply loved you, he wouldn't be waiting for the other girl. He would be with you. No matter what. He's just playing with you.
He knew exactly what you ment. He said that to change the subject.
Leave him. He's not good for you as he's just using you.
Take care.
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