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writes:This boy at school told me in the library that he loves me. He has never even talked to me before. How can boy just blurt that out? I just froze. Didn't know what to day. I probably looked shocked. I felt shocked. Then i think i messed up because then i said 'you don't know me'He just turned and walked away. He is 16 . I don't want to tell anyone becos they might make fun of him or me. Have i really messed this up? It is not like i'v ever noticed him. I can't' it understand how he even work out why he did this? Reply to this Question
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reader, i'm saleem. Help me  +, writes (22 May 2012):
Ya you handled it well. But the boy really likes you and may know you since long. Don't hate him. If you dont have particular reason to hate him, then you can slowly observe him and you may find true love with him for you
gud luck
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (22 May 2012):
 Yes I think its a good idea to keep it quiet for now. Dont hand him any notes because you dont know him from Adam and you cant trust him. Just follow your heart and do what you think is right. And yes, it was very brave of him to come and confess his love for you!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (21 May 2012):
 You did the right thing, you were HONEST.
I can't see why you could have messed anything up by being yourself and by being honest. Telling an almost total stranger that you love them is surely a crush, as he IN FACT do not know you.
If he is a guy you are interested in, say hi next time you see him. Talk to him. If he is NOT a guy you are interested in, just drop it.
And I think you did the right thing (in this case) in not telling your friends. This was meant for you and you alone. Now the ball is in your court.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2012): Thank you i tried to ente code but it didn't work. I must have written it wrong .thank you anonymous123 and Abella you both made me feel that that i didn't do something wrong thank you
. I don't know about a note? I want to keep this very quite.i have seen toomany girls in tears becos what if he showed the note!. But that's a nice thing to say he noticed was brave. I wtill remember that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2012): Your response was true though, he doesn't know you to actually LOVE you but very brave of him to admit attraction! Maybe you could write him a little note saying thanks for letting me know you've noticed me, I was kinda shocked at the time but maybe next time you're in the library you can come chat/study with me!
If you aren't interested then maybe still write him a little note saying you were touched but you already like/are with someone/he's a too much older (choose your response!)
Good luck! X
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (21 May 2012):
Hey, you share my story! The exact same thing happened to me, except for the fact that you handled it SO much better!! The guy gave me a letter proclaiming his undying love for me, I froze, got home, burst into tears and was trembling with fear, I dont even know why! I was absolutely ridiculous!!
Anyway, this guy obviously really likes you and has been noticing you for a long time. So what do you do now? Nothing, just relax! You dont have to tell anyone if you dont want to, and if this guy wants to talk to you, just be very normal about it. The poor guy's probably crushed you rejected him!
You havent messed anything up, you handled it really well! You sound very nice and mature, no wonder he likes you! :)
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reader, Abella +, writes (21 May 2012):
 Welcome to teenages crushes. The boy has a crush on you and has noticed you, even if you never noticed him. He took a chance and let you know. Yes, I agree that he could have shown a little more finesse. But that's being a teenager. Don't be too hard on yourself. He will be feeling perhaps far worse than you.
Not that you need to act on his crush. As a teen he may have ten more crushes on ten more girls by next month.
But he has seen something about you that he likes. It may be your looks, or how you walk, how you talk, even your smile or your giggle. Whatever it is, he likes you, at the moment (but could change his mind any moment)
Just put it down to being a teen.
And you sound like a very nice discreet girl to know that it is best kept under wraps so that your friends and his friends do not start to make more of this then is the case.
Who knows, in a couple of years time he may seem different and it may be you who later has a crush on him? If that happens he will really appreciate that you respected his secret crush on you in 2012 and never mentioned it to anyone
Just keep on being you. You don't need to change a thing. He liked you just the way you are. You were shocked and surprised by his remark. But don't be too hard on yourself. you have done nothing wrong. And you have behaved admirably by respecting his secret crush and not telling the world.
This is just part of being a teenager.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2012): When you see him again, tell him you feel flattered by what he said, however he really doesn't know you and how about you change that?Give him an opportunity to get to know you. Clearly he has a crush on you and decided to put it into action, but it was all in his mind and you were not aware at all.Try to see how it feels to be in his shoes, and give him privacy and respect for having the courage to share what he feels. Don't tell others, so nobody ridicules him. Get to know him, even in a group environment, and see if there is anything you like about him. At the very least, he could become a best new friend if you don't have feelings for him. Best case scenario, he saw something you didn't, and you could have potential there.Time will tell. Meet up for a chat, share lunch, coffee, whatever casual thing to get to know each other.Good luck :)
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