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writes:So i kissed this guy i like...and he wasnt very good. He thrusted his tongue in my mouth several times which i didnt like. overall i didnt like his kissing techniques. i wont want to kiss him again unless he doesnt kiss like that. should i not like him anymore because of this? i thought he would be more talented then this..because he's been with many other girls. I just lost any chemistry there was because of this. Is it possible that he can change kissing techniques entirely? or am i outta luckthanks
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reader, daletom +, writes (8 May 2009):
If you're mainly concerned about his kissing technique then it's probably best to move on. If you like the guy for other reasons, try to teach him - perhaps by telling him directly, or perhaps with less direct methods - how you like to be kissed. If he can't be taught to kiss, I'd bet he'll never be satisfying as a partner for more advanced, more intimate lovemaking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): Yup and I can think of two specific bad kisses
I was kissing this one girl and was totally put off when she bit my bottom lip right away. I was thinking "What the was that? Did you see that in a movie or something? This is our first kiss." So it sucked and I didn't feel like kissing anymore and just stopped. Really killed the chemistry. The other kisses were much, much, MUCH better once you set the rythym. Just break away, smile and then resume. Train and tame that freakishly eager Alien vs. Predator tongue some partners seem to have.
In another instance, I was the bad kisser because I was so shell shocked. She had just laid down so much psychological drama when I dropped her off that I was stunned. I was trying to process it all (she was rejecting me while saying she was crazy about me) and the next thing I know, she's kissing me. I regained awareness of the situation like a dumbfounded dental patient with an anestatised left jaw. By far, the worse lip smacking experience I've every had (second only to the lip biter) until I had to ask her what was going on. Bad kiss, last kiss.
So this guy might surprise you. In the first instance it was a 180º turn around. First kisses can be nerve-wrecking. He was probably just nervous, set the pace next time and see how he takes it. The second instance taught me that you really should never "dive" into anything as the other person might not be ready for it or in the mood.
Don't dismiss a bad first kiss. See what the next one's like.
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reader, Guitarist  +, writes (8 May 2009):
 The answer is simple.
TELL HIM!!!!
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