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writes:OMG!I need help! I have no clue what to do! I dont know whether my hormones have gone insane or my maternal instincts have overtaken me, but I am baby crazed. I have no idea why, I've always wanted kids but now I think I've just gone crazy lol. My boyfriend is 20 and I'm 19 we are renting/ buying my mom's old house. We are both going to colege and we just financially cant have a baby right now, my brain however is telling me otherwise. We have protected sex, yet every month I hope my period wont come. Everytime I see a baby my heart melts, I smile at them and give them a little wave and they smile and omg its just soooooo adorable. I keep trying to trick my brain out f it by thinking they will be monsters when they get older, the eat, drink, poop, burp and make messes. (Which I wouldnt mind at all!!!) But I KNOW its not the right time for a baby. How can I stop being so baby crazed!!!???? A little help here? (I even wished a stork, yes a stork would leave a bassinet by the christmas tree with a baby, uggg it's driving me insane lol!!!!)
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reader, blackroses2989 +, writes (22 December 2008):
blackroses2989 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thats a great idea!!!!! Yesterday when I passed the baby isle at macy's my bf rolled his eyes lol! But I played with his neice and nephew who are eighten months and 2 yrs old lol, so that helped a lot too lol!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 December 2008):
 Why don't you buy a little baby thing when your baby crazies come on. You know, a blanket, a teddy bear, night gown, stuff you can keep until you actually decide to have that baby?
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reader, Artistry +, writes (15 December 2008):
 Hi dear, Thanks for getting back to us, now I can breathe a sigh of relief. :o). Try some chamomile herbal tea, it relaxes, you and it may just reduce and calm your hormone level.
Take care, whenever you do decide to have a little one, you will probably make a good mother. Happy holidays, safe New Year.
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reader, blackroses2989 +, writes (15 December 2008):
blackroses2989 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all your help! I wasn't actually going to act on havin a baby my hormones are just arye. lol. I have to make clear that I wasnt planning on it now lol its just my hormones they're crazy!!! lol. But I really do realize the work in having babies. Sure they are soft, cuddley and cute, but they are also monsters at times. I used to work at a convalescent hospital, I prefer taking care of a baby oppossed ot an adult any day, although it was a very rewarding job and every person there appreciated it greatly! I do have a my dog living with me at the house I rent. Although I really have 5 dogs, 3 horses, a turkey and goose which I had to leave at my moms ranch because I'm going to school. I suppose however I couldnt leave a baby home while I went to school and work could I? lol. (jk) But really thank you for all your help! ^_^ Its very much appreciated
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): Relax there is nothing wrong with you. A little broodiness is not unusual. Just don't act upon those instincts of mother nature until you are ready for all the responsibilities that goes with raising a child.
Focus on your studies/career and think about all the things, you want to have in place before settling down with a family.
It is so much easier raising a child/children when you are financially stable.
Just a thought:
Maybe you can go visit a daycare center and offer to change a few nappies! I don't think you will feel so broody there after.
Good luck!
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reader, Artistry +, writes (15 December 2008):
Hi there, Hormones may be at play, but I think you are fantasing about wanting to have a small, soft, cuddly baby.
Which is great, but do you have a sister or cousin or some friend who has had a baby already, and can tell you all about the morning sickness, and the throwing up, and the bloated feelings before you even deliver the baby, and the labor pains. Granted, after you have the baby it would be well worth it, if you have a loving partner to help you with the child, especially in today's world. Babies are not cabbage patch dolls, you say you are in college, what happens to your education? Then you have to hope upon hope that your baby will be healthy, that is not a given. Healthy babies, have stong lungs, and your patience will be tried when they wake up with colic, or something else and want to cry all night. It all sounds great, little pretty, soft baby, with beautiful eyes. It is fine to dream, but why not finish your education, so that you will be able to take care of yourself, if you need to. Find a friend who will let you take care of their baby for a day. My neice took my sister's little dog home over night, and for a day. When she brought the puppy back to my sister, she did not want to have children any more, not at that moment. It's a big responsibility. Why not try a pet first? That would give you some sort of idea, what is involved with raising a child, but only to a minor degree. Think, long term, babies are not babies forever. Take care, hope I helped a bit.
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