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writes:I started at my new job earlier in the year and over time have become very fond of a colleague. The problem is he's bisexual and currently has a boyfriend (when I first started he was dating a girl).He went home for a few months over the summer (he's currently here for uni) but is now back at work and since he's returned he's been very flirty with me and very "touchy feely".For example, he will just come up behind me and put his arms around me and hug me, play with by hair, and the other day before we left he kissed me (be it only on the cheek.) there were also other girls around at the time but he did not go to them and do the same until my friend who works with us began to mock him as she knows I like him.He also says bits to me for example I smell nice, look good or wolf whistle me.It sounds crazy I know but I'm tearing by hair out as I don't know how to interpret his behaviour or how to react to him (eg if there is a small chance he likes me back I'm not doing anything to show him as I'm very shy and not used to attention.) I presumed that he acted similar with others with him being bisexual that he was more open to being flirty but my friend who has known him longer assures me this isn't the case and she can see he's different with me - I just hope she doesn't say that as she thinks it's something I'd want to hear.Has anyone ever been in a similar predicament? and if so what did u do about it? Any Advice is welcome as it's really getting me down As I like this guy so so much.uu
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reader, freya70 +, writes (15 December 2008):
 Bisexual or not, it doesn't really matter.Having an affair at work is tiring at first and painful and humiliating afterwards.Because they end eventually.Having had one myself nad having just been told that yes, he loved me but he didn't know quite what to do...I now have to face him at work, not knowing what to do or how to behave.And people know.They always do.It's me who's the office talk, not him.I am now on my own, having lost what I cherished most-respect...
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