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writes:I like this guy who's like 25 and 9 years my senior. I would never date him now because that's obviously illegal, but could I date him later on in life? How could I manage that? I mean, I have a greater age difference with one of my brothers (I'm 11 years older than him) and my dad was, like, 15 years older than my mom (they got divorced... but not for that reason lol), so 9 years isn't a big deal to me. Please help!
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reader, roadman  +, writes (31 December 2008):
 I've done 10yrs above and 14 years under in my time both legal I'll add for the record.With the age gap thing it works if the 2 people who are in the mix are happy with it and get along..Mine both worked quite well for a number of years..and I still enjoy thinking about the time we shared..Nothing wrong with it at all..
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2008): If you want to date him, go ahead. It's not illegal to date at 16; you just can't have sex.
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (22 December 2008):
 Sweetie, when i said slowly i met really slowly...at least until you are of legal age. no dinners.....thats far too intimate and it comeswith expectations. do innocent stuff, send each other bday and xmass stuf, go for coffee or a movie if you can bring a gf along, stuf like that, no need to rush things, basically just keep in touch with each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHow can I get to know him, though, without him getting in trouble or anything because I'm a minor? I mean, I don't think it's appropriate to go to dinner or anything hahaha...
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reader, Plexi +, writes (21 December 2008):
I just want to ad that during this time.....until you are both mature enough to have an adult relationship, expect that he will date other girls and let him, just like you should go out with your friends and other guys. You can not expect a mad to save himself for you and by you letting him get girls out of his system while he is young, you are diminishing the chances of him cheating on you in the future when he decides to pick you as his one and only. Dont ever push him either, dont force him into a relationship, a relationship needs to develop over time on its own and men need to say when they are ready for a commitment
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reader, Plexi +, writes (21 December 2008):
yesssssssssssss! And it wil actualy be a perfect age difference(maturity wise) in about 10 yrs from now. Dont be discouraged, time flys and the years go by very fast. Stay friends with him(get to know him slowwwwwwwwwwwly as a person, do nice stuff together, no physical stuff)and if you like each other later on then it will be fantastic because you will have a relationship that started out as friend....with a great foundation. Those relationships tend to last the longest.
Goof luuck hun:)
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