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writes:I'm a 25 year old black male who is biracial. My black side is more dominant as my skin color is more of a rich brown color. I have dated girls of all races without a problem. BUT my weakness is older white women. Usually 40 and up. I don't know why but something about them when I talk to them just gets me. There is usually a level of energy and attraction I feel with them then with women of my age group. They tend to exude sexyiness, whereas girls my age are more timid and insecure. The best way to sum it up is that older women have this sexy thing about them as if they know something I don't, almost like a secret, and I want to find out! what's the best way to meet older white women for a younger black guy if at all possible. As they don't inhabit the usual places I go to meet women. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2016): Grocery store, online, library, civic clubs and any other sort of volunteer efforts, concerts of various types music
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2016): Just to add, there are some things you should make certain; if you are interested in forming a real relationship; or serious about long-term dating.
Make sure it is established that you are not a hustler, exude confidence, good character, and maturity. Never allow anyone to treat you like a boy-toy, maintain your dignity, and insist on respect.
Don't allow yourself to be exploited, passed around, or objectified. Always show pride in your heritage.
It is easy for your good intentions to be misinterpreted.
You have to be careful, you're playing a little out of your league when it comes to experience. Just some fatherly advice, not putting you down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2016): Going online is your best option. However; don't treat people like they're an answer to a fetish. You should be attracted to personality, intelligence, poise, and good-looks is a bonus.
Preference for a particular ethnicity is very restrictive, and it may also indicate you're stereotyping unfairly. Don't judge a group by a few incompatible individuals you've met, or make subjective comparisons for the sake of argument.
Sexiness is an attribute that adds to attraction; but that isn't a quality found only in white women over 40. Keep your options diverse, and leave room for variety. Being as young as you are, your tastes and types will change anyway.
Which is good reason for woman that age to proceed with caution.
There may not be a lot of white women over 40 looking for moderately experienced, young black men, 15 years their junior, of uncertain financial status. Who claims to be particularly attracted to a specific type for mainly sexual reasons. Women in that age group are well-experienced with men, and will pretty much see you as I just described you.
Good luck!
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reader, Abella +, writes (3 June 2016):
 Here are some suggestions on where to find women, suitable to meet your preferences, where the women are in their 40s and beyond1. Learn to play the game called bridge. Partners who can bid correctly and understand the rules of the game are always in demand. Many bridge clubs run classes for beginners. http://www.bridgewebs.com/playbridgeusa2. Find a sport you are comfortable with and learn how to play it where people - male and female - play the game together. Tennis and golf are two that come to mind for fit people over 40 as they are both social games.3. Join a car club. Surprisingly these clubs attract a lot of women. Usually you do not have to own and drive a Jaguar to join the Jaguar car club.4. Join a gym where lots of ladies like to attend http://www.self.com/fitness/2012/04/hottest-workout-classes-slideshow/15. Regularly attend a farmers markets at the weekend. Stop for a coffee regularly at the same place, and around the same time each weekend.Do not be too eager. Just know that you will be observed and looked over before any conversation takes places Farmers markets at the weekend – visit several times over a period of weeks – as a weekend activity. 6. Join a community theatre group. You do not need to be one of the actors. If you can move scenery around, help paint a back drop then you will be welcomed and appreciated. Socialising in such a group is a great way to meet some lovely ladies in your preferred age group https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amateur_theatre#Amateur_theatre_in_the_USA7. Enrol for a cooking class. Always lots of women attend these. many chances to socialise too while learning to cook - often an ethnic emphasis and other times more complicated techniques re cooking.8. Put your name down to join a community garden. You will meet people who love their garden and interact with them socially. They will teach you how to grow your own produce. Share recipes and who knows? Cook a lady a brunch one morning.9. Learn a new skill - a manly demanding skill like glass blowing - enrol in some classes to learn. Then IF you become good enough you may be able to put on an exhibition of your work in a galleryGalleries attract 40 something women - find out when a gallery near you is putting on an exhibition of art work and ask if you can have an invitation to the next one.10. Go to a very early morning lap swimming at a public pool near you and then stop to have a coffee afterwards around the same time – a regular swimmer will soon find an opportunity to talk to you11. Ever wanted to learn how to write fiction? Join a writers group. You do not need to be a published author. And if you really want to meet wall to wall women who love romance then consider registering to attend a RWA conference. Where you will likely be met with wall to wall romantic women, some of whom will be unattached. Who knows, you might become the hero in one writer’s mind, as perfect for her right now, and as perfect for the hero in her next book. https://www.rwa.org/conference 12. Try to concentrate on face to face meeting. That saves you from the despair of finding that your Online lady does not look like her picture anymore.Good Luck with your quest.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 June 2016):
 Online? I would suggest different online chat forums, I have met several women there in the age group you are looking for. Mostly single mothers though, you didn't mention how you stand on the kid-matter. If kids are no problem, then I think there are plenty of opportunities for you.
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