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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hello! well I'm gonna start from the beginning, I'm currently 18 years old (19 in DEC) and I'm married, so i started dating my husband when i was 14 yrs, so he had an ex girlfriend she loved him a lot and she went crazy when she found out i was going out with him. so yeah she would call me and start saying stupid things OK so we were small i was 14 he was 18 and she was 15 OK time passed i got pregnant at 16 and married him since like 3 years ago everything was OK my life was PERFECT! i loved it! my husband my daughter, so one day in (march 2010) i get home and log in on my-space, i see i have a new e-mail, and guess who it was from? my husbands ex girlfriend i got shocked i mean OK we live in the same suburb but i had never seen her never ever since i was 14 so yeah i read it and it said she was sorry for everything she had done to me that she had finally got over my husband that she finally understood he loved me OK oh i forgot(after my man left her and she found out i was going out with him she became a hoe yeah she fucked 2 of my mans cousins and one of his brother my bro in law all the family think all she wanted is to be part of our my mans family) so i told my husband about the e-mail she had mailed me and he said don't pay attention to it she might want to start saying things to you so what i did was reply and say she was forgiven by me that i had nothing against her. so 3 weeks passes and the BAAM! she wrote again she started sending me this emails saying stupid things like that "your husband was mine first and he loved me and bla bla bla bla bla! so i got so mad and started writing back i know i should of acted like a married women but it got me so mad! so now in the present i am mad! i cant stop thinking about her on how she keeps saying shit about me and i don't know how to stop hating her because it's only making me feel worse! i need help i don't envy her because there's nothing i would want about her she's fat shes a whore so i want to feel better not think about her because anger gets to me! i want to be happy again i mean i am happy but then she comes to mind and all this anger gets to me i hate that girl!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2010): it is your actions that are feeding this problem. Your first big mistake was even responding and replying to her. Your far worse mistake was continuing to respond to her. It is trash behaviour. You can do better than that. Cut off the air from this discussion by never responding nor reading to anything from or about her. Designate her email adddress as junk mail and leave it at that. If she phones you hang up and block her number. Surely you have things to do and activities to plan to enjoy with your child and your husband? Get a hobby. Enroll in a course to learn a skill that would be useful for you to learn. Smart women focus on their family, and dont get stuck in the lifestyle of a little school girl, constantly checking 'losersville' = idiotic dumb facebook. It is immature and unbecoming to continue to respond to this sad woman who behaves so poorly. Show a more responsible approach by getting on with your life and never speak her name again, and never respond to any gossip about her.
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reader, helpful21  +, writes (3 November 2010):
sometimes we come across people in life who really want to bring us down, this girl is obviously hurting she feels your husband was the one for her, its so hard but you cant hate her, wheres anger going to get you, she's just trying to get at you, try and have positive thoughts about her, don't let her hurt what you have with your husband and daughter, it will only cause trouble in your family, your family is number one there are always going to be people who want to ruin your hapiness don't let them,ignore it, if you see her ever say hi, smile at her, this doesnt bother you, she's nothing but a distraction, she must be a very unhappy girl if she has to act out like this for attention? she'll get bored after a while and things will settle
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