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female
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36-40,
*ndecisive85
writes:I sometimes wonder if I'll ever find love again. I've only had one serious relationship and that was four years ago. we were together for 2.5years. Back then I was naieve and gullable. I've been on plenty of dates and had the odd boyfriend here n there since then but they never seem to last longer than 3months.3years ago I decided to just focus on myself and have accomplished so much since then, I made massive life style changes, am fitter and healthier and I feel so much better for it. (I even got myself a university degree) I'm always excited everytime I achieve a goal but at the same time I feel alone and wish I had someone special I could share these experiences with. I try not to dwell too much over the loneliness by just keeping busy. When it comes to life I set myself goals and I strive to achieve but at the same time im openminded about love. Its been four years and I'm starting to wonder if I'm ever gonna find love again...These accomplishments just feel empty when you don't have someone to share them with. and each time i my lovelife fails it get harder and harsher as I start to lose hope. I dont understand where Im going wrong??? I definitely didn't think I was STILL going to be single 4years later. Can anyone give me some advice as to how to break this crappy pattern..
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reader, vincey  +, writes (27 February 2011):
 Well Indicative 85,
I totally Understand what your saying. I am going through the same thing. Broke with 2 years relationship, change my life style, focused on Uni degree, graduated and at the end i realised that, i was missing in something which was really important. That day i realised it could have been much better if i had managed love life and carrier aspects together. Most of the time what try to do is, catch up with lots of people, make hipes of friends, try to get the popularity back so that i can have a good catch.
but i am not going to compromise for anything less then what am looking for. I go through disappointing & rejections some times, well that's life.
Try to be more social, show interest in friendship so that you can gain the popularity, try to meet new people and you will know when you have the right person in font of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): i get exactly where your coming from i was single for years until i one night i was watching a show and they started talking about dating, and the guy says that everyone has their "type" and thats where most people go wrong, just try giving someone whos not your "type" a chance you never know... they say opposites attract, and dont look for love let love find you, and some day you will have someone to share everything with. i was in a relationship for 4 years with the same guy until i found out that he was cheating on me multiple times with multiple girls, and even with a striper that was hired for his bachlor party... the night before our wedding, that was hard and i thought id never get over it, i was single for 2 years before like u i dated all the wrong people id lose intrest after a few months and i found the love of my life right now on fb, hes no where near to the "type" i had in mind but i gave love a chance, and i thank everyday that i did hes better then the man i dreamed of.... so my advice is live your life do what u need too and try different things keep an open mind and open heart love will find you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): Ok now take your time!!
I'm sure someone will fall for you sooner
Or later! Don't panic! If you have no one
To talk to talk to your friends!
Don't worry about boyz someone will fall inlove
With u soon. And if you rush then you
Probably won't find the man that you
Were made to love.
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (27 February 2011):
 The man you are waiting for is getting to you just as quickly as he can. Please be patient with him he doesn't know it yet.
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