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anonymous
writes:About three years ago I was having sexual relations with my step brother, this went on for about a year. Before people jump to conclusions here let me just define this relationship for you. We are not blood related and we were not brought up in the same house. Infact we are not really even step siblings as such as my parent and his parent are not actually married just together. We would only see each other when we were kids at the weekends.All in all we've probably known each other fifteen years I'd say roughly. I'm 21 now he's 23. Basically we had always kind of fancied each other the spark was always there even from a quite young age but I was always weary of acting on it because I knew it would be frowned apon (although thinking about it recently if it was now I probably woundn't care) we would spend hours together before all this happened and also used to text when apart. I went on to lose my virginity to him I knew in my mind without a doubt that this was going to happen even before it did and it was exactly what I wanted I wouldn't have dreamed of losing it to anyone but him and I still don't regret it. But eventually because of the difficult situation it just turned into casual sex.I loved him I mean even before anything happened seeing or hearing from him would be the highlight of my day. Even if we were just sat watching tv together every moment I spent with him was special. He would always make an effort to come and see me two or three times a week.The casual sex was not what I wanted but I was afraid to admit my true feelings, keeping it a secret from everyone was just weird and in the end he got a girlfriend. This was a big deal to me and I still to this day regret not ever telling him how I felt. That was a hard time I honestly don't know how I got through it.I see him from time to time and we are polite to one another and can have civilised conversations we just never mention well you know...Him and his girlfriend have been together for three years now and in that time I stopped all contact with him ie phone, facebook, email. I wouldn't want to jeopardise his relationship. Despite having had two other sexual relationships noone compares to him. What am I supposed to do? Do you think as more time goes on I will feel different? It has been three whole years.
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reader, Bambina  +, writes (8 May 2010):
Here's the thing - you have two clear choices. You could pine after him, stay totally hung up on him and waste months or even years of your life where you could be having fun. Or you could go out, live your life, meet guys and try to get over him a little. It's okay to still have feelings for him, he's your first love! But just try and have faith that if it's meant to be, it will happen, and if it doesn't happen, it's because you have stay single for your TRUE love! And you will find him, trust me ;)
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reader, rcn +, writes (2 May 2010):
 I'd say that you need to live today for today. Their may be a chance down the road for your coming together, when the chance arises, tell him how you feel. Until then, just live, and enjoy life for yourself. I feel you're wasting time away by sitting back waiting.
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