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writes:Hey people, I posted a similar question related to this like in September. But I want new answers. Also, I really appreciate you guys and girls for helping me out and I have a problem. Please don't say ewwwwww, or anything rude. Be mature, if not don't answer it. If your willing to be mature and willing to help me. Please help me.Here's the story: It was back 3 years ago when I was 13, I saw my second cousin for the second time. When I arrived at the airport at San Diego, I was surprised on how she looked and everything. She was so beautiful and attractive. When the day passes by, we went out for lunch as a family, and went to the mall to go shopping. Once we got to her place, we had so much fun playing video games like counter strike, contra and other stuff too, and being random :P (Sorry guys, no COD or Battlefield :P). Like the weird part is till now, I still remember how it happen and what time is was around. And I felt really happy. :) After that, just the boring stuff not relating to this, I was at Mexico chilling with the family but not with her. After we came back from Mexico and went back at San Diego, me and my mom's cousin drove off to her friends house to pick her up from a party. All I remember is just having a good time, and watching TV like whose line is it anyway. We were just talking and we exactly got really close, and it felt awkward but I was falling for her and I exactly had real feelings. Around 3AM I had to leave to go to the airport and leave for Toronto,and ask her for her email address but she told me that she was tired, and give it to me in the morning. Here's the worst part, she didn't wake up or anything as I was leaving for my home. I felt really upset, I won't know if it was me or if she was tired. Once I got back home, during the night when everyone is sleeping. I started tearing up, because I miss her so much!!!!!!!! And now, I miss her and love her. But when I was still at California, I felt I was annoying back then or didn't know what to do, but I forgot how I was back then. We haven't communicated for about 2 years, and I used to have her on Facebook but she deleted me for no reason. Maybe because I was annoying or her account got hacked. I wouldn't know.Now for these 3 years, I had feelings for her, and I miss her. It might be stupid but sometimes I tear up over it because I miss her so much. The only simple communication I had was sending her a letter when I came back to her place back in End of 2010, and didn't had a chance to see her. I haven't got a reply back. :(Right now, I still miss her. Was there something I was missing, was it real love, family love? I wanted to see her but I think she doesn't miss me back or thinks about me. Probably because I was being so awkward or annoying back then, I wouldn't know. Hopefully, I get to see her ASAP. It doesn't matter if it's here in her place or my place. EVEN, if it's email, Facebook, Skype, letter, etc. I just want to talk to her. :'( I have dreams about her, and looking of photos of me and her.Overall, I think I'm missing something but I don't know if I love her (crush way) or as a family. She's really attractive, and beautiful. My heart is telling me something, I always have an heartache when I feel upset because of her, and I want to see her ASAP! Also, since I'm a good boy :P and have good grades at school, I'm going to try to convince my mom if I can fly to San Diego for my birthday just to see her (Don't worry about the it's gonna cost you money so don't worry). I already let it out of my chest to tell my mom, and some of my close friends and my chaplain at school.But don't worry, this is not affecting my image or anything. And also, it's not affecting my learning at school and I'm a really nice guy. I can't tell my parents this because it would be weird, bad, and I won't be either to see her again.P.S If I do see her, any suggestions? and also, should I tell her how I feel about her? Like it's still there but I'm confused. Also, I feel like I wanna call her but I don't know how is she gonna react to it.Anyway Thanks guys, and girls for helping me out. It really means a lot to me. As always, have a beautiful day.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 November 2011):
 I'm sorry but I have to agree. My guess on this would be that she knew you where falling for her, she said she was to tired because she simply did not want to give you her email address. She did not share your feelings so she tried to avoid you, she deleted you on facebook because she did not want to talk to you, as hard as that is to hear it is the truth. Am sure you are a nice person and am sure you never done anything wrong, it is just she is not interested in having a relationship with you or even a friendship. You need to accept this now and move forward. You have been upset all this time because you are unwilling to let her go and move forward. You need to accept that she is just not interested. If you ring her she will more than likely hang up on you and if you land over there, it will probably freak her out and upset you even more because she will avoid you. Spend your money doing something fun. Go out with friends and try and forget her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2011): From what you have said, she has shown by her actions that she is not interested in seeing you, or even talking to you. It may not have anything to do with you being annoying or anything like that, she just doesn't like you, the way you obviously like her. I know you don't want to hear this, but it sounds like you would be better off spending your time on trying to get over your feelings for her rather than trying to figure out how to contact her, or going to see her. The signs that she is giving you is that she isn't interested in you. I am sorry but that is how it is. Go out with friends, get a new hobby or something like that,and move on from this crush you have. Good Luck.
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