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female
age
26-29,
*ustagirlinthecroud
writes:Dear Cupid,I have a problem and I don't know what to do. There are 3 guys right now that I can't choose from..guy a. guy b. and guy c. Guy a- I dated him a couple years ago for only about a couple months, but I fell in love with him. we stopped talking for over a year. now just 6 months ago we started talking again and started dating a month after we started talking. we've been on again off again ever since..but he's always here for me. he flirts with a lot of girls and gets mad at me for talking to other guys. when he gets mad he calls me harsh names but then an hour later he'll apologize and tell me he loves me. he tells me how he needs me and doesn't have anyone else..he threatens he'll run away or kill himself. but everytime i try to move on to another guy all i think about is him..guy b- i dated him last year when i wasn't talking to guy a. i started dating him so maybe it would help me move on from guy a... we dated for about 9 months but i broke it off cause i just wasn't feeling it anymore. but he was so sweet and treated me perfectly..we always had so much fun together and so much to talk about. he loved my friends, i loved his and my friends and family all loved him. now i regret ending things with him but i'm scared to start talking to him about "us" because i don't know how he feels about me anymore..i know i hurt him really bad and he cared for me a lot..more than i did him. i just wish i would of realized what i had at the time..guy c- i just met him last month, but the first couple times i hung out with him i couldn't believe how fast i liked him. he's such a sweet guy..but when he's with his friends he seems to be a different person. i don't know him all that well but everyone says i should get to know him.. he's really funny and calls me beautiful all the time. i really do like him, i just don't know if i should leave guy a for him? and just forget about guy b..?please help me!
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reader, macy.lou +, writes (10 August 2011):
 ohh boy where do I start...Guy A is NEVER GOING TO BE WORTH IT! No matter what he has no excuse to treat you the way. I just get a feeling you're a beautiful girl who deserves sooooo much better. You don't need a guy to feel that way. I agree I definitely thiink you should find out who you are and what you want and let go of all 3. They will all have a special place in your heart..but it's over you ended it, and the chances of you marrying any of them (especially a) are very slim so you're going to have to move on evenutally you might as well not waste your time. You're probably never going to get over them unless you truly admitt to yourself that YOU want too though no matter how much your best friend tells you deserve better you have to admitt that to yourself too.. It's definitely not fair to all 3 of the guys to lead them on either.. If you're going to choose one, do it soon and let the others go.. forever. Start fresh and be ready for the right guy to find you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2011): Well you need to go with your heart. I've been in a situation before this this, and no amount of writing down pros and cons is going to help.
In my opnion I don't think in the long run guy a is good for you .. You've ended it before what's saying you won't again? And him flirting with other girls is wrong END OF
I think you need space apart from ALL GUYS. you need to figure out what you really want and get over guy a, because whichever relationship you choose to be in you're still going to have thoughts aboutt the others and wondered what happened unti their complelty out of your system.
I hope it all works out for you in the end and you become very happy
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