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writes:Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 2 3/4 years already. On the 1st of this December, it will be our 3rd year together. Last monday she decided that she wanted to leave so that she can "think" on what she wants to do with out relationship. I know i've been a jerk sometimes and it's my fault, I'm not going to lie. It kinda all started when my parents got divorced and that's when I changed as a person. I was always angry at something and kinda took it out on her for no reason. It must have also been my jealousy as well. We also have a 9 month old daughter together which tears me up because I love my daughter and I love her so much. I don't want my daughter to have single parents. She said that she needed "me" time so that she can think to herself. For now she wants to be friends.I asked her if she still loved me and she kept on telling me that she didn't know. I can't figure it out why she wont try. I begged and realized all the wrong that i've done and I want to be the same guy she fell in love with. I know that she would never cheat on me because if she wanted to, she would've a long time ago. But right now it's hard to believe that she's not with another guy because as soon as we broke up, the next day she was at her friends house. The thing is, she tells me it's a girls house but everytime I come over i never see that girl, just her supposed brother. And I find it funny that she ran into her friend and she told her that she could stay at her house if she wanted to when she's really supposed to move back into her grandmas house. She gets angry when I try to ask her what's really wrong and what can I do? If she really loved me, she would not tell me that she doesn't know if she does. I have been trying so hard for the last two days to talk her back into my life but she gets angry because everyone keeps on asking her about whats going on between me and her. I don't know, all I want is to be with her. I gave her my heart and all my love. Can someone help me? I want to trust her but it's so hard to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2009): I know, but it's so hard to deal with. My world is so cold right now and confusing. I want her to take the time she needs but I've been reading other articles and it all seems like everybody says to just not get in contact with her. How can I do this is I want to see my child?I've came and visited my daughter and took her overnights a couple times since then. It's been 5 days and I want to continue to see my daughter but in order to do that I have to see and come into contact with her as well. I've realized how much it hurts to get yelled at for no reason now. Since we broke up, that's what she has been doing to me. Mainly because I kept on bothering her. My jealousy is such an evil habit. I trust her though, right now, that's about all I can do, right? I haven't eaten 1 thing since then. I'm just not hungry anymore. Is there any hope left for me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2009): Hi
You know, let her have her time alone. Don't insist on it. We all know that we cannot make anyone stay against their wishes. I think that this time away period will also do you good.
You will have the time to deal with your issues.
It might be the start of something new and exciting. Don't fear it so much, and stop the begging, it will only make her resolve stronger. Besides, you don't want to make her run further, do you?
So, that is all.
Hope it all works out
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2009): Sounds like she had enough. It's not going to help you if you keep on being jealous, and check on her all the time. If she is separated from you she is intitled to do whatever she wants, see whoever she wants. It doesn't call cheating, because you aren't together anymore.
That's what happenes when you take someon for granted. She needs time for herself, she doesn't know if she still loves you.... those aren't very promising signs for you.
My advice would be to give her ome space, may be she'll realize that she still wants to be w/you. But you can't going on getting angry at her, you need to control your outbursts, and jelousy also. Good luck
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