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writes:hi, i am a 27 year old girl whose never been in a relationship. i am not that beautiful, but i think i look nice. but as the years pass by, i don't think any guy is attracted to me, and i'm starting to have the feeling that i'm lonely, especially that all the girls that i know from college and school are married. there must be something that i can do to attract the right guy, and at least feel better about myself. please advice Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2005/12/13/earlyshow/main1122971.shtml
Copy and paste this in your browser, there is a lot of practical advice on finding Mr. Right on here.
Good Luck.
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reader, Pyroshadow  +, writes (11 August 2009):
There is nothing you can do to attracted the right. You can do lots of stuff to attached men. Sexy clothing, the right make up, blah, blah, blah. But the right one will see you for who you are. Someone who can understand you better.
How about you try an online dating site. I know lots of people that have a lot of luck with them. Okcupid.com seems to be a good one too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): Hi, don't allow yourself to fall into that trap of feeling like there is something wrong with you as your girlfriends drop like flies getting married. You have to realize that the one thing we can count on in life is change.
Most of us are very uncomfortable with change and when it happens we resist with every part of our being, even if it means getting angry or drepressed, which is anger turned in on ourselves. So your women friends are getting married and you are not....what to do.
Realize that change has to be dealt with, accepted and solutions found. Make new friends, continue to make new friends and new opportunities arise to make new male friends, if you want to be married you will be some day when you are ready and you find the right man for you.
If you don't want to be married you won't and you do not have to be a married woman with children to be happy. You can have an adventurous life instead or a great career that you are passionate about. But the one thing you can count on is change, life will not stay a constant and you have to learn to accept and adapt and not take it personally...there is nothing wrong with you, so stop feeling sorry for yourself and putting pressure to meet a guy and get married. That spells desperation, which is a turn off to most men.
Get out there and embrace change and get busy with your own life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): Hi there! I can relate to how you feel, I never dated or had a bf until I was 22 and out of college already. I was really never attracted to the guys that were attracted to me..and it always seemed like I was attracting the wrong guys, the guys I didn't like. Until I met my bf. It was unexpected and surprising but also exciting. Although you've never been in a relationship, this just means that the right guy hasn't come along yet. I think "searching" for the right guy will be harder than just waiting and having him pop into your life one day. Wait for it, and focus on doing things yourself. Hang out with single friends and go out and meet new people and focus on making new friends instead of hunting for a significant other and I think you'll be happier and when the right guy comes along, he'll be able to make you even happier! Good luck!
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