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anonymous
writes:I have been dating this guy for 6 months. We broke up late Friday night because he doesn't share his feelings with me.(he shares them with everyone else though...friends/family) On Monday, I went to talk with him to patch up the relationship and I find out that he had sex with this girl (who he's slept with in the past) less than 24 hours after our breakup. How can he tell me that he loves me but then jump into bed with a girl that he knows is infested with herpes and turn around and tell me that he loves me?
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reader, nicolexue +, writes (11 January 2008):
 it's just because he does not love you now! my friends on stdromance site has the same problem
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): Well that's very responsible of her and she must think highly of him to afford him the respect and consideration. She can't be all bad. And...if your Ex BF told her he was single...she hasn't done anything wrong.
The person to be upset at is your EX BF. He made the decision to be single.
Just let it go. He made a decision and you hurting over it is normal but accept it and move on.
It's over, you have to believe what he says.
IT's odd that the EX BF would tell you such intimate details; why would he want to hurt you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe reason I know about the herpes is the girl he slept with told him about it.
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (1 August 2007):
 I think the relationship has ended on a perfect note. He's infected. You're not. He obviously has issues with communication, commitment and fidelity. You're better off without him. P.s. If you take him back now, not only will you be exposing yourself to herpes, but you'll probably never trust him again either.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (1 August 2007):
 Well it sounds like since you broke up with him(im assuming) that he must of felt less of a men.
And to feel more manly had sex with a girl quickly.
Your gonna have to talk to him about your feelings and if you wanna patch things up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007): It's odd how you would know about her having herpes. If you heard it through the grapevine-that is what jealous and insecure women do to lash out at someone they feel threatened by. Malicious gossip doesn't solve a damned thing.
I understand rejection hurts. I understand that it is unfair.
It take two people to make a commitment and one to say So long and move on. That is how the power to choose works.
If you believe your BF may have caught the herpes virus why the heck do you want him? It would be a tough call to invite into my life herpes.
Herpes can be taken care of and outbreaks can be reduced and prevented but it's still not 100%.
I say if he wants to be an idiot and wants to say goodbye-why worry?
You're young and have plenty oppurtunity to find a more suitable, faithful, committed mate.
Best Wishes.
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reader, HelpingHand7 +, writes (1 August 2007):
 after a break up guys can be really easily taken advantage of (girls are the same way) or maybe he considers what he did with this girl a mistake the important thing to do is sit him down and talk with him about it be honest about how you feel and dont let it end in an arguement whatever you do.
hope this helps
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