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writes:I'm not going to say that it's a *sad* truth as some people might think. Im 21 years old and have never ever had a boyfriend or went on a date. My parents are even shocked of this fact, and they think that im might be dating or being in a relationship ship secretly. I don't know why i never had this feeling that i need to be with someone, need to feel the love from another guy. I'm not gonna be cocky, but I'm pretty, and i always get tons of compliments from guys and girls, and guys flirt with me always. No matter how many guys wanted to be in a relationship with me, i push them away. I enjoy flirting but i also enjoy being alone, i enjoy my own company. Is this normal? I mean, why am i getting this feelings that i don't want commitment? Trust me, I'm not afraid of love but i never had the need to go and search for love. I had liked a few guys before but then i just got over them very quickly. My friend told me that I'm being unrealistic and have a very high standards when it comes to finding the perfect guy and this is selfish. Is she right?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 January 2018):
 Is it normal to enjoy your own company? Yes off course it is, just because people at your age tend to be out looking for love or to date doesn't mean that you are not normal because you don't want to. As long as you are happy that is all that matters. Commitment is not for everyone and well just enjoy your life your feelings might change in a couple off years, its your life and your choice!
Am not sure why your friend thinks it is selfish, if you have high standards then that is your choice and you have the right to hold out for a guy you think is perfect. However he might not exist. Either way, it is your life and your choices yet again so I wouldn't worry about what other people have to say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2018): HiI am very happy on my own. I'm rarely bored and never lonely. I find being alone exciting and liberating. I don't understand people who always have to be with others. We're all different and I wouldn't start listening to others who try to tell you how you should be, live or feel.I expect that you would never tell others that they should be alone . . right? I have no idea how your friend comes to the conclusion that you living the life you have been given in the way you want to live it, is in any way selfish. And I'm not going to waste one second on her silly opinions and I suggest you don't either. Go ahead and live your life to the full. Sadly there will always be others who don't see things the same way.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (22 January 2018):
 Two questions in there: 'Is this normal?' and, 'Is she right?'about being selfish or unrealistic.
There is no rule that you have to be in a relationship with someone. If you are happy as you are then why change? In some ways life is simpler. You only have yourself to please. Stop worrying and stop comparing your life to other people's. I can think of a couple of female acquaintances who are quite happy on their own. They live alone, go on holiday by themselves but don't seem unhappy. Sharing a life isn't for everyone.
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