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writes:Hi,I really need help with my problem..My boyfriend told me about 5 months ago about the Nibiru/12/21/2012 end of the world theory where the whole world will be made over again. He told me about it without the intention of scaring me but he just wanted to tell me as it was interesting.Since then, I have always thought of 2012 and it is always in the back of my head, as I do my daily activites it is always in the back of my head that the end of the world is near. I never shared this with my boyfriend as i did not want him to think it was his fault that i felt this way.Today, we brought up 2012 and I told him how I really felt, that i was scared and i felt that many of the things i did in my life i felt were pointless as the world was ending in 3 years. he comforted me and told me that we are not sure this will happen he assured me that i wasnt going to die. But he felt really bad and he felt like it was all his fault that he wasnt there for me or giving me the attention i needed and he thought that he did not handle me well in this situation because we have had a couple of rough months so he thinks that all my depression and all my worries are a result of him!!!!but i dont want him to think that...how can i reassure my boyfriend that it is not his fault that i feel depressed about the end of the world and also assure him that i will think optomistically not pesimittically.???
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): Well you can't beccause you are blatantly disturbed by what he told you,but darling you needn't be :) that's just another massive conspiracy theory like the millenium bug (WHICH NEVER HAPPENED). Anyway try not to worry and talk to him about the fact you've been scared and then he can comfort you.
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reader, enanolove +, writes (24 April 2009):
Why not tell him that he worried you, if that is true?
In other words, if what he said, and put in your head, that you then went to bed with to think about, and then thought about it for days...well if he's the one that told you, then 1) he should have known you better or 2) he should have known better to make you worry or 3) he was trying to scare you.
What it comes down to is: will you always believe what other people tell you, or will you learn to use a bit of critical thinking to believe what it is YOU want to believe or worry about?
You seem like a bright, caring person so please, my suggestion is, take care of yourself, and find some positive things in your life to do or be, so that even if great disasters come, or just small accidents happen, you will still find mental and emotional strength to get through those times.
Cheers.
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reader, enanolove +, writes (24 April 2009):
Hello to OP,
First of all, the 2012 date is, arguably, the date that the current calendar system ends, and that a new one begins. There's a lot of urban legend that with the ending of the current calendar cycle that the end of the world will come. So your boyfriend like many other pseudo-scientist/new-agers are jumping on some hyped bandwagon.
Let him know that you were not depressed over that, or that if you were, then that you know better now. As someone stated above, take a class together, like a Cultural Anthropology class on Central Americans, Central American religions, or just Latin American Indians in general.
There's a lot of misinformation that is spread by the popular media, such as the movie by Mel Gibson that shows the Mayans as being complete savages that get conquered by the "white man." It was the Aztecs that were conquered by Cortez.
Read a bit more, and don't be scared. There's other bigger things to worry about.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (23 April 2009):
The thing is he DID make you feel depressed and worried so telling him that its all fine would be a lie.
Tell him you don't believe it any more and it's all good and you can just forgive and forget about it.
When he sees that you've forgotten it and moved on then so will he. He's only going to feel bad if you keep reminding him about it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): realize that we're all mortal, and that most of us live pretty mundane lives w/ our typical day-to-day schedules that we have to do, whether it be school or a job…that's just a part of life…life typically isn't a fairy tale, but what you make of it…just know that whether you die in 2012, next month, or 50 years from now, either way you'll have no control over it…tell your bf that it freaked you out, but try to stop fretting over something which you or NO ONE else since the dawn of time has any control over
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reader, simationq8 +, writes (23 April 2009):
simationq8 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all... i am assured now:):)!
But the real quesiton is how can i make my boyfriend comforted and make him realize that i do not blame him for all the worry about 2012 that i was going through. How can i assure him that it was not his fault that he introduced me to 2012
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): Don't worry! It is extremely unlikely that we will all die in 2012, something that could kill us all just like that would have been spotted by now, we have very advance technology on our side that was (obviously) not avaliable when this was predicted. If you keep worrying about when you are going to die, then you won't be able to enjoy the time you do have here on good ol' planet Earth. Live your life to the fullest!
Hope I made you feel at least a tiniest bit better
Lady in White
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reader, Griim +, writes (23 April 2009):
 The end of the world has been predicted thousands of times. Unsurprisingly it hasn't happened yet. Try and think this through logically.
The universe is roughly 12,000,000,000 years old. Why would it now suddenly end because of some dating system created by humans just because it has a pretty pattern?
I'd bet everything I own that the world does not end 12/21/2012. ;)
Oh, but watch out for 12/21/2112!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (23 April 2009):
Some basic research on this has shown me that it's pretty much been proven that this is not going to happen.
Even just putting it into Google brings up a lot of mental websites and a lot more saying that there is no way that we would not have spotted a planet that big heading this way.
You are far far far more likely to be hit by a bus, involved in a car crash, or even eaten by wild dogs.
If you worry about what could kill you then you will never do anything. So the best way is just to work hard, try to excel at everything and live for the day.
We've all got to die one day so you have to make your mark while we can.
Climate change is a far bigger risk to us all.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): Before you reassure your boyfriend, you need to be reassured! I've read up and saw a programme on TV about 2012. Honestly, unless there is more evidence I wouldn't worry. I've thought about what MIGHT happen and i've just decided i'm gonna live my life and not worry about something that probably won't happen. The main source they are going on is a mayan stone calender that runs out in 2012. It could mean anything! If something IS going to happen for sure, they'd be alarming people wouldn't they? All what they are saying are just theories. So don't worry about 2012 and focus on the present! :)
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reader, simationq8 +, writes (23 April 2009):
simationq8 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi.. i hope someone could help me with my problem
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