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writes:How Do i Move On from my Ex Girlfriend?-we dated for two years and in early september she left to college. we didnt break up but at the same time we didnt say it was over. its been two months since i seen her. and now she barely talks to me, she doesnt text, she doesnt pick up to my calls. what do i do? i have seen her flowers, i have wrote her love letter and mail them in. i have told her the i think im really deeply in love with her, and the i would do anything for her. Anything you guys could possibly think of. she means the world to me and i thought the when she left to college we had something special but little did i know the after two weeks she was gone she was going to ignore my calls and stop texting. i have cried nights and days wondering how she is, where she is, if she will call. But it never happens, im still in love with her and im always thinking about her, no matter what i do, she still in my heart and in my head. i mean i go to the gym, i go to school, i hang out with friends, i tried to be with someone else to see the maybe i would get over her but at the end i still miss her and every day i wish to be with her, but it may not be my choice anymore. im hurt and all i want is to stop crying, i want my heart to stop hurting and i want to be happy again, i know the i lost her so i want to move on but how do i get her out of my heart and my head, if i love her so much?
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reader, bob43 +, writes (10 November 2010):
hey,
Been there mate, know what you're going through. 5 months ago it happened to me, and i was devasted. and again when we met up a couple of months later.
Sending her letters, flowers and doing all the things you think will win her back is a waste of time. Sorry to say it and i know it hurts, but those things actually push her away.
I don't know how you could get her back or anything like that. But i found the best way to get over / move on is to spend a lot of time with friends and family and realise that if it is meant to be it will be. If not, you just can't let yourself hurt anymore.
I did it far too long, I was in denial and i was a mess. crying and all that. easier said than done but take it one day at a time, plan a few things to do each week that will let you 'zone out' - did me the world of good. i played football two three times a week, packed away all pictures, presents etc and planned things with my mates.
Just keep busy and realise that bombariding her will only annoy her, make you feel worse when she doens't reply and start thinking about you.
hope this helped
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reader, ritinha  +, writes (7 November 2010):
oh honey..
the only thing i could say is: sh*t happens. We've all been haertbroken, it's a normal stage in life. Although you've spent two years together, you don't have to say that she's you're world. in fact, she's not. you're young, you've been in a relationship way too long. I know (i've been there) that when a relationship fails it's horrible, you cry yourself to sleep, you wake up in the morning feeling like crpa and you think that nothing will ever be that good. Well, you're wrong. for me, what worked was my true friends always keeping me away from my thoughts. and think, if that is happening, she really isn't the love of you're life. think about all the time you sepnt together and all that's happened between the two of you. you grew up together but you may also have become two very different people. in fact, if she's doing that to you, then she's not worth your time AT ALL. All you can do is pick up yourself and try to make the day without thinking of her, have no regrets for what's happened and maybe - in two/three months - havean honest heart-to-heart talk with her. but stop thinking she's the one for you. if she did that, then she doesn't know what she's doing and, thus, she is't the love of your life. you have much to live, go out with your friends, stop tlaking about her, don't text her anymore. when she feels ready to talk to you, she'll talk. and if she doesn't, all you can do is smile because you had the best time of your lice - once. go on with your life, and remeber, we've all been there. relationships that long are realy hard to get over, but you're going to make it. I promise you :)you know what? been there, done that it was also two years. Now? happy, really happy with many new friends and a new boyfriend. you'll be able to do it too. I PROMISE.
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