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female
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anonymous
writes:My bf of 2 years has been paying less and less attention to me and we've been having less sex (once or twice month). I was sad at first but got used to it until I realized I was flattered and happy to get attention from other guys. I thought I wanted to be single again so brought up the topic. I guess part of me was hoping to end it so I could move on and find that wonderful loved feeling we had before. I was blown away when he agreed that things were not the same and said he was so busy and didn't have time for me and that wasn't fair to me. So, we broke up. I guess I really hoped he would say he was sorry, didn't realize things had gotten that way and want to make it all work. He says I'm his best friend and he wants to be friends so what happened? I'm the only gf his guy friends have ever liked, I hang with the guys all the time and get along great with them. Is there any reason to think it can be fixed? Should I move on? We never fought over anything.
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reader, Aunty Monica  +, writes (2 August 2011):
If it aint broken why fix it, it seems you have both out grown the relationship and maybe you might have a better realtionship as friends. The good thing about this is that you still stay frineds so if there is s possibility of getting back together you can still explore it. For now just stay friends if that is possible cos you will have attention from other guys and he from other girls; it might be difficult for the two of you to deal with that.
A lot of people make this same mistake you have made in thinking because his friends like you, you are a match made in heaven, you need to remember that his friends owe him loyalty and not you and whatever decision he makes is just fine by them.
Please move on that ship has sailed and in the future always say what you mean, men cannot decipher codes they only hear what you say.
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