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writes: I split up with someone almost two years ago and I can't seem to get over him. Everyday I think about him and feel sad. I don't know what to do, I miss him so much and feel there is a big hole in my life since we split. I know I have to move on, life just feels so meaningless and cold and empty without him.I also can't get over the way it ended and can't stop feeling guilty about it. I think I treated him really badly and now it just serves me right i feel like this. But sometimes I think he treated me badly too. I can't work out the truth anymore. I just know that it still hurts two years on and I haven't dated anyone in this time and I want to be happy.My question is what should I do to feel better about things and how can I feel happy again?Thanks.
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reader, mona2007 +, writes (3 January 2009):
mona2007 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, your advice is helpful and it means alot that you helped me.He has got back in contact on and off in the last two years but there was a stumbling block of the fact I wanted to go travelling for upto a year...and then he met someone else so that was it I felt.So yes I have set some goals for this year and am trying to concentrate on them.Thanks againxxx
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reader, mona2007 +, writes (3 January 2009):
mona2007 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, your advice is helpful and it means alot that you helped me.
He has got back in contact on and off in the last two years but there was a stumbling block of the fact I wanted to go travelling for upto a year...and then he met someone else so that was it I felt.
So yes I have set some goals for this year and am trying to concentrate on them.
Thanks again
xxx
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reader, shiraz  +, writes (2 January 2009):
dont jump straight in, its been two years. you dont go into detail on how it ended but it did and for a reason, he hasnt got back in touch and you cant judge on how he may or may not still be feeling. a break up hurts and getting over somebody isnt easy, espically when you build that bond and become as one, you think nobody can break your world but then it does, on its own theres nothing you can do to stop it, its out of your control. then you go through the phase of letting it go, your stil stuck here after 2 years its ok so are many people. sometimes a person never really gets over the one they loved and lost. you always have options and choices you just have to decide which paths best for you now. dont feel guilty for the past, nobody can change whats happened, learn from it and stop it reoccuring in the future.
you can try to feel happier by going out more, coming out of the shell youve hidden in. youve let guilt eat away at you and it can damage a person, theres genuinly nothing you can do to change it so dont let it change you. become the person you always wanted to be. your in a situation where its a new year time for change etc. make yourself resalutions, personal goals to yourself you wish to gain by a certain time and each time you avcheieve it reward yourself, feel proud of who your becoming and how youve turned it around. we can always adjust from the past, itll take time but you will find the strength in you to do this. happiness cant find you (although we wish to believe) you need to go out and grab it for yourself.
good luck -i hope everything works out for you xxx
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reader, roadman +, writes (2 January 2009):
 Try and get him back..
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