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writes:Im in bits right now. I was having a LDR with 'Rob' since christmas. He's in the army. We saw each other when we could. But while he had been away, things had changed for me in my life. I became a model and been published in a couple of magazines. He seemed pretty happy for me, in fact he was always telling everyone how his girlfriend is a model. So why now is he finishing with me, and his reasons are because he doesnt think he is good enough for me. Fair enough, Ive had quite a bit of male attention and even offered to go on a date by a known footballer which I refused. I only want to be with Rob. He cant understand this. Tonight on the phone he told me he wanted to be with me but he didnt understand why i wanted to be with him. He kept asking me why I was with him and said he knew I could be happier with someone else. Ive been texting him over the past 2 days pleading with him but he wont change his mind. I think its also bothering him that he goes to afghanistan in a couple of weeks for 6 months and I think he thinks that Im not worth the hassle of worrying about what Im up to back home. He cant understand that I only wanna be with him. Ive even told him I would quit modelling for him. He wont even respond to me. Im devastated because I wont ever see him again. I feel absolutely gutted inside and just want to cry in my bed. It hurts so much. I cant even go see him face to face because he lives an hour's drive from me and anything I try and say over the phone he completely ignores. I dont understand, 2 weeks ago we were happy planning a holiday. Now its over. Im just heartbroken.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2011): his heart and mind are not open to you for whatever reason, so it's fruitless to spend anymore time or energy on him. Leave him be. if his insecurities are making him push you away, there's nothing you can do because it's all in his mind and has nothing to do with you.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (24 July 2011):
 Have you thought that this might not be about you, or him, but about the fact he is being deployed in a few weeks?
He might think you are getting too emotionally attached and doesnt want you to get hurt if, heaven forbid, the worst should happen.
A lot of thoughts and feelings are probably going thru his head right now. War is dangerous. People get hurt. He may being trying to spare you heartache by breaking up with you now.. just in case.
You have yet to experience what it is like to be a real army GF - when your significant other is far away. Many cannot cope with it, and he knows this.
Hang in there. Show him you are not going anywhere.
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reader, stephekm +, writes (24 July 2011):
I know why this is, it's because he doesn't feel he deserves you.He might be a player and is no good for you.I had that happen to me last summer. It's him not you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2011): yes. See if he fones u. Give it a week. He,s being realistic though in a way. He,s going for six months,and yovr life has changed. Do not give up the modelling. Grab the opportunity with both hands. If he doesn.t get back to u in a week, work on moving on. He thinks u won.t want him soon. He may be right. You.ll be fine. Whatever. I wish u well. X
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reader, Confused112  +, writes (23 July 2011):
Give him time. No contact for a few days. See what happens.
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