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writes:I have been in a relationship with my cousin for 10 months now. when we were little kids i didnt really see him that much, so i never considered him my cousin then a year ago i found him on myspace and we started talking. We would see each other i would go to his house and he would go to mine. he lives 2 hours from me but we would try to make our relationship work and now im 2 months pregnant by him and i barely told my mom and dad, my dad told me that if i dont have an abortion he'll never talk to me again and my mom keeps trying to convince me into having an abortion and so do my sisters. My boyfriend says if i have an abortion he'll never talk to me ever again. so everyones making this so confusing for me and my boyfriend's mom said that if i have the baby she'll keep it and raise it. i really dont know what to do..
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): Hi,
Well I don't know how old you are, if you are like 13 or something like that, I don't know what to say. However if you are already 18 or about that age, I think you could be old enough to take care of your self. The thing is that you shouldn't let other make your decision. At the end it's going to affect you and your boyfriend. It's you life and you should decide what you think it's better for you. Someday the your sisters, and who ever are making your decisions are going to make a life of their own. I am not going to tell you what to do, but please consider all your outcomes from all the posible answers, and decide on you own. Bottomline don't do something you don't want to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): you make the choice for youurself. This is your life. I know what you are going through and as long as you and your boyfriend love eachother it shouldnt matter. Dont live life as someone others want you to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011): My great grand parents were first cousins. They had 6 grandchildren. 3 of the 6 were homosexual. Their son had depression and anxiety. Their daughter was hospitalized for a nervous breakdown. I am their great grand-daughter and I have bipolar disorder and OCD. Maybe all this could be a coincidence, but I personally do not think it was a good idea for them to inbreed the way they did.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (9 January 2011):
 Here's the problem, in the US..having a relationship with your first cousin is considered to be incest. In which incest is against the law. However, most states won't let first cousins marry, some have exceptions, and others it's illegal. Just a little FYI.
http://www.cousincouples.com/?page=states
Do you know why everyone is telling you to get an abortion? Not only because of the law, but for the sheer fact that due to inbreeding the baby could come out with birth defects. So you might want to consider that.
WIth the incest set aside, this is your baby and body. That means it's your choice what to do. Do you have the money to support an infant? Will your boyfriend help you since your family won't be of much assistance? What if he breaks up with you and you're stuck as a single mom trying to make ends meet? What if you guys live in a state where you're unable to get married?
A lot to think about. No one but you can make this decision, but you need to consider all the risks and factors. Good luck!
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