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writes: I have a problem about who I should go out with and that man will never leave me. I am 18 years old and studying in a university. I have a man who I talk to and most likely to be my boyfriend in the future. He’s a type of person I like, but sometimes he makes me confused because he doesn’t say what he really think and what he want. Perhaps because I am a lot younger, he’s 23. I also met a man who studies in the same university but different faculty. He’s so good to me and I think I like him. I talk to him on the phone about twice a week because I can’t help myself thinking of him even though it’s wrong. I didn’t know what to do. He said he likes me, too, but I didn’t tell him that I’ve already had someone. Should I give up or keep on the relationship with my new guy.
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reader, Aunt Cathy +, writes (6 July 2005):
HiyaI think you should really follow your heart with this one. You are only 18 years old and at University - you should be enjoying yourself and studying hard. Your tastes may even change as you get more experience in life and desire different things than you do now. Don't go into a relationship being frightened about a guy leaving you and making such a life decision at this time in your life.Maybe if you are unsure who you really like - maybe you should spend a little time single and find yourself and get to know yourself , then you will know what kind of person you really want to be with. To be honest do you really have the time and energy to put into a relationship right now when you are setting yourself up for life with a great career? If you are choosing to be with one of these men. The firest man you mentioned the 23 year old, he seems to be pretty confused as to what he wants right now by not saying what he is feeling or thinks. Could you really trust this man if you had a serious relationship with him? The man who is at the same university as you seems to be a more stable person from what you have said and if he enjoys talking to you maybe you should give him a go. You may have more interests with him as you are both intellectuals and a similar age.However, you are still young and you have a whole life ahead of you. If you begin a relationship enjoy it and keep your head above water and don't get too serious. You may not agree with what I say, but believe me I went to University and got serious about guys and I have the experience to tell you that yes your views on life and what you like in a man now will most probably change when you leave. Spending time making friends and having a good time is essential at your age as it will stay with you forever and when you are a mother and wife you will have wished you had had that letting your hair down stage in your life. You have plenty of time to get serious!Good luck and remember if only we could put wise heads on young shoulders.
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reader, butterfingers +, writes (6 July 2005):
I don't think it's so bad to consider a relationship with another person in comparison to the one you have. Remember, it's yourself you have to live with, so whatever decision fits well with you is fine!
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