A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyonewell for the last 6 months 2 guys have been interested in me. Both of them are my friends. I find them both attractive.The first one has done so much for me, he is always there when i ask him for help, he has helped me more times than i can count, is so sweet to me, always puts me first and every time I'm with him I feel very happy. I'm new to this country and this guy made it so easy for me to settle here. He is an angel.we had a few dates and they were so perfect, like they were out of the movies. One of them was the best day of my life.The second one is a foreign student like me at my language school. He is the typical bad boy, he makes rude jokes about me and doesnt do anything for me yet flirts with me all the time, he is a lot more direct than the other boy and a lot less romantic.For some stupid reason for 6 months I was really interested in the 2nd boy and overlooked the first boy entirely after a few dates. I'd not reply to him for days and days even when he was trying to arrange something nice with me and deserved my replies. I agreed to do things only to cancel last minute etc. I really like him and he is really wonderful but for a long time i just saw him as a friend as i wanted the 2nd guy. The 2nd guy then tried to get me drunk and sleep with me and i was very upset. The first boy has become less interested in me in the last month as i always stopped replying during a conversation or didn't reply for many days as even though i liked him i didnt want him to like me more as i wanted the other guy.Now i can't stop crying as all this time I've been ignoring the first guy who really is special and has been so lovely to me. He is the type of boy i want to marry but i didnt plan to meet a boy like that while i study abroad for a year. I dont know why i ignored him, maybe i was scared of falling in love in another country when i will leave when my studies finish so saw the other guy as not marriage material like the first boy is.Now i want the first boy so badly and would do anything to have spent the last 6 months with him, have done the dates that i cancelled and the plans that i decided to not do with him, so i would be able to spend time with the other boy. I even am looking at ways to stay in the UK after my studies to be with him. I feel like such a stupid girl and i know i dont deserve him, but do you think i will be able to make him interested in me again? I know if i message him he will reply and be so nice but I'm scared and feel so guilty.
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reader, Via F.  +, writes (7 September 2014):
 The easiest way is to confess to him. Say what you said in this post. You don't find guys like the first one every day. The second boy is a jerk. Don't even waste your time on him. If the best day of your life was with the first guy, then you need to let him know. Maybe he will forgive you.
Good luck!
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reader, Satina  +, writes (1 June 2014):
actually,the first guy was really precious. u failed to recognize his worth when he was near you. i strongly recommend the first guy for you because i think he is a person who gives importance to moral values. please,don't go for the bad boy type guys. there is no use of having a life that is not meaningful. even if you find some pleasure when you are with the bad boy type guys,it won't last. it will be only short-term. long-lasting happiness can be found only through a meaningful life,which gives importance to moral values. don't feel guily to contact the first guy, because,now you have apologized and realized your mistakes so that now you are a new person. lead a good life from today. best wishes!
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