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writes:Ok, here's the deal. I've been on 3 dates with the same guy. It's been a while since I've gotten to date number 3 with any guy, really, and we're quickly moving into uncharted territory for me. We have a lot of things in common. We like a lot of the same shows, we have a similar appreciation for the weird and sometimes grotesque. There aren't too many awkward pauses and I've only embarrassed myself a couple times so far. Problem is, I'm not feeling any spark. It's like hanging out with a friend who happens to be a guy. People say that you can go beyond that point in time, but I'm not sure that it will. I feel no inclination to hold his hand, let alone kiss him. So, how do I approach this? We're going out again some time next week. I certainly don't want to force affection if it's not there, and I don't know what I'll do if he tries to move in for a kiss. To add to that (you can prob ignore this bit), I plan on going abroad for a little over a year. Had it planned before I met him, and told him about it but he seems ok about it. Not fantastic, but ok. Not like I need his permission or anything. 3 dates does not qualify you for a vote on my life. Anyway, I'm getting away from the topic. Any advice would be great.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advice! We went on another date. Still not feeling it and it kind of seems like he's not feeling it as well. I'm not sure. We haven't made any plans for another date, but we'll see what happens. My family keeps saying that it takes a while to feel something though, so I'm just going to go with whatever happens for now. At the same time... I'm keeping in mind that my family also probably wants me to be dating someone because it's been a while since I have and they think I'm lonely or something. So, taking their advice with a grain of salt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2013):
Who says you can't be friends before you fall in love.. I'd say let it continue for a bit if he happy to see you, and you he.. And I agree no putting your life on hold for new guy, he needs to deal with it..
Life is as Forrest Gump says ' a box of chocolates' you might look at one at think ' oo my I got left with this plain chocolate one , doesn't really do anything for me' then... You take a bite and suddenly your senses are just sent into overdrive..
I would say.. When the timing right let him.. Kiss you.. Then you will definitely know whether there a something or a nothing..
There he see you, talking all over there,
He leans in ever so gently coz he wanta kiss you gal haha
( and no I haven't been drinking haha)
I think you just need to see this as having a good time with someone your not awkward with, can talk too, and have fun time .. Doesn't have to be heavy.. It only date number three..
Take care and keep us posted sweetie. X
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust to clear things up. 3 dates total, we're going on our 4th one soon. Sorry for all the confusing details!
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