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writes:Okay so .. Ugh .. I know this is gonna sound stupid and I hate myself now.. Anyways .. I lost my virginity about umm .. 5 days ago .. To my boyfriend I really love .. He told me he wants to spend his whole life with me and well I feel the same .. Anyways I've Been searchin stuff about being preganat online .. and I am completely paranoid .. I regret having unprotected sex.. He happened to pull out .. But I know that there is still fluids .. To get me pregnant.. I feel like I let my parents down .. I had my life all planned out..I was gonna go to school and work as a ultrasound tech.But I guess it's all over Now.. Anyways ..Is it possible to become preggo if I just lost my virginty?How could I tell my parents that? ( plus they are jehovah wittnesses)how early can symtons of pregnacy come?I don't think I'm pregnant .. I'm suppose to start my period on Thursday or Friday .. I don't really keep track..Oh yeah .. After having sex for the first time .. I was ovulating ..Is that common after sex? I'm extremely worried ..I know I shouldve been smart about it .. Please help me :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2010): Use your head. That "boyfriend you really love". Ten to one you are not even on speaking terms in two years - baby or no baby.....
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reader, Mizzsnooky305 +, writes (20 July 2010):
Mizzsnooky305 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much :) I appreciate all the answers ..
My family&i don't believe in abortion ..
Oh & I'm not preganat ..
So I've learned my lesson :)
thanks alot again :)))))))
oh&im 14
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): USE CONDOMS
like people say dont be silly
just wrap your willy
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): my eight and a half month pregnancy belly is the product of losing my virginity unprotected so i know that it can defo happen ... even to someone who is atleast 7 years your senior. So my advice before worrying and confessing all to parents is to wait until you miss your period and get a pregnancy test and perhaps even go to the doctors (I think the usa has free clinics too) to get their opinion and get tested with them. Its not just pregnancy we are talking about here ... its STDs etc. Also, think about what YOU would want if you are pregnant whether that be keeping, aborting or have an adoption. I know your parents are religious but you really have to consider whats in YOUR best interest.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (19 July 2010):
 It doesnt matter if it is your first time having sex or the 100th time - you can always get pregnant if you have had unprotected sex. So yes there is a chance you could be pregnant but you wont know until you miss a period. But it can take about 4 weeks before you will be able to take a pregnancy test and get an accurate result, so what you need to do is wait until next week to see if you have your period or not. That should give you some idea if you are or not.
Even if you do get your period (or dont) next week, you should still take a pregnancy test 4 weeks after the date of you having unprotected sex. That should confirm for you if you are or not.
I'm not sure how you know you were ovulating after having sex - did you take an ovulation test? Generally you have to know exactly when your periods arrive to know when you are ovulating so I'm not sure how you have decided you were ovulating! Ovulation happens mid-way through your cycle - so typically a menstrual cycle is 28 days (can be more or less for some people) so you will ovulate around the 14 day point, this is when you are most fertile. This has nothing to do with when you have sex - you will ovulate every month around the same time regardless if you have sex or not, this is just the way your body works. So my problem here is that unless you know exactly when your period arrives you cannot know the length of your cycle, therefore you cannot know that your ovulating??
If I were you I would not tell your parents until you know for certain you are pregnant - there is still a good chance you are not pregnant so no point in worrying them until you know for sure.
And once you have waited these 4 weeks to take the test - get yourself to the doctors ASAP!! You need to take an STD test, then get some birth control sorted plus some condoms. You clearly know how silly you have been, so if you get a lucky escape here make sure you learn your lesson and be responsible for your body. If you think you are old enough to be having sex then you have to be responsible enough to look after your body and your health, and if you dont then you have to be old enough to deal with the consequences.
There is a reason us adults tell you teenagers not to have sex so young, it seems like a good idea at the time but then you cant handle everything that comes after! But it was your choice to have sex, now you have to be a grown up and deal with the consequences.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): Yes you should've been smart about it and used protection, speak to a doctor or get a pregnancy test from a pharmacy.
And yes it is possible to still get pregnant, even when you just lost your virginity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): First port of call: doctor or pharmacist. They might be able to give you some emergency contraception although fives days after it might be a bit late. No time to lose,head on down there, explain and then ask.At least you realise you have been stupid, that is a really big step so well done on that. I'm sure you won't do it again. You may well not be pregnant if he didn't come inside you BUT then again you could be. A medical professional is really the best person to ask. Don't worry about your parents yet, or your career plans. You might not be pregnant, but yes you can get pregnant on your first time, of course. Wait until you know if you are pregnant or not, then cross that bridge- you might not need to.Go to the pharmacy or go to the doctor and see what they have to say. Then you can worry about the rest.Good luck! Be smart next time. But well done for realising you mistakes.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (19 July 2010):
 Yes you can pregnant after the first time. Really, all you need is sperm, not even sex.
Best thing to do, is speak to a doctor and know for sure. Hopefully you have learnt your lesson for the future.
Lesson is... When you are ready, not when he is ready.
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