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19 and looking to get my tubes tied

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Question - (23 July 2009) 9 Answers - (Newest, 9 August 2009)
A female Canada age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I am currently 19 and looking into getting my tubes tied. I know that this is a risky operation and I can blow my chances of ever having children but I am strongly curious about this option. Does anyone know what the chances are of pregnancy after a reversal? Are there any other risks I should take into account? Any general information would be appreciated. I want to make a fully educated decision and weigh all my options.

*I am considering this because I have uncomfortable complications regarding the pill and shot.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009):

I strongly recommend that you do not get your tubes tied as a form of birth control at age 19.I got my tubes tied at age 21 after having my fourth child as a single mother,now I am 30 and married to a man with no children of his own,i came across this question surfing on how to undo a decision i made that I believed to be a good chose at 21.your 19 you will want to have a baby later in life then this will be you,AT 3:25 in the morning crying because the price to untie your tubes in 7,000 dollars.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (23 July 2009):

Honeypie agony auntI think a tubal is the worst idea for birth control. Talk to your doctor. At 19 I think it is a really bad idea. I can understand the wish for not having unplanned children, but there are other ways to prevent pregnancy.

TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR.

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A female reader, babymama99 United States +, writes (23 July 2009):

babymama99 agony auntGreat day in the morning women, don't do this!! This is major surgery.

I know someone who had her tubes tied, this was after she had already had two kids and decided she didn't want anymore. Well she eventually met a man and got married and her husband wanted kids of his own. She decided to have her tubes untied. another PAINFUL major surgery. I will say that after years of trying they eventually were able to have another child.

Some doctors won't even tye the tubes of someone so young. My friends doctor only did it because she had already had two kids. When she went back to him to get her tubes untide she said he told her "this is why I don't like doing young people"

Please think this over. If the side effects of the female birth control methods are really unbearable then just tell him to strap-up when the time comes. Put some of the burden on him.

Please don't put yourself through this agony. It sent a shiver down my spine when I read your post.

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A female reader, EbonyBlossom United Kingdom +, writes (23 July 2009):

EbonyBlossom agony auntWhat are you complications with the pill and shot? They are far more risk free. And you won't need to pay. They are 99% reliable and if that isn't enough then why not use condoms as well? You should definitely be fertile when you stop taking them. I think going on the pill or shot would be a far more sensible option.

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A female reader, DrPsych United Kingdom +, writes (23 July 2009):

DrPsych agony auntGiven your age and lack of children I think you would find it difficult to locate a surgeon willing to perform the operation to be honest. Sterilisation is major surgery, even when performed via laparoscopy, and the failure rate is about 1 in 200 overall (but varies according to surgical method used). It is not recommended for women with certain medical conditions such as ovarian cysts or clinical obesity. There is also an increased risk of ectopic pregnancy amongst women who have been sterilised. While I appreciate you may not be getting on with the contraceptive pill or shot there are other methods of protection available to young women. Your best bet would be to make an appointment with a doctor or nurse specialising in family planning. Due to my medical conditions I couldn't take the contraceptive pill or any other hormone based methods so I do understand it can be difficult and frustrating. However, there are specialists out there who can find something that works for you such as a coil or cap. I never wanted children at your age and in my early 30's I was told I was infertile and couldn't conceive naturally or carry a baby full-term. At 36 I proved them wrong and I wouldn't be without my little terror to be honest. You may change your mind about family when you get older like I did and you should keep your options open.

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (23 July 2009):

Tisha-1 agony auntIf you want to become pregnant in the future, tubal ligation (getting your tubes tied) is a poor choice. This is from the plannedparenthood.org site:

"Can Sterilization Be Reversed?

"If you are thinking about reversal, sterilization may not be right for you. Reversals require complicated surgery and cost thousands of dollars. Even though tubes can sometimes be rejoined, there are no guarantees. For many women, reversals are not possible because there is not enough of their tubes left to reconnect."

Here's a chart that might help you ponder your birth control options:

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm

The other thing to keep in mind is that sterilization will only prevent pregnancy; it doesn't prevent STIs. Barrier methods such as with the female or male condom help with that. You can study up on all your alternatives by clicking on the icons on the chart, that will lead you to an informational page on each type of birth control.

Good luck in your search.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009):

I strongly recommend that you DO NOT do this. It is a form of birth control, but at 19, your views about having a family may change. The chances of conceiving after reversal seem to be ok but personally I think it is an unncessary risk. I can understand that you don't want to have complications whilst on the pill or having the jab done, but perhaps you could have the implant? That may be a better option. I also think you should talk to your doctor about your concerns, they could give you more information. In the mean time here are a few websites to help you out.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tubal_ligation

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/002913.htm

http://www.birth-control-comparison.info/tubalig.htm

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A female reader, Quacked United Kingdom +, writes (23 July 2009):

Quacked agony auntTubal litigation (having your tubes tied) is surgery that closes off the fallopian tubes. Once the tubes are 'tied' the sperm cannot reach the egg.

Tubal reversal is serious surgery! However, it is claimed that 50-80 % may become pregnant after a reversal.

Other things to consider:

With all surgery there is a risk - infection, etc

You could end up with other damaged organs by the surgical instruments used.

May be incomplete - you could still get pregnant (1 in 200).

A higher risk of ectopic pregnancy.

Hope this helped.

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A female reader, ilovebowsandcherries United Kingdom +, writes (23 July 2009):

ilovebowsandcherries agony auntHey hun i've just come acros this website and i really strongly recommend that you read up about the tubal ligation operation.

they also have the side effects which can occur as well you really need to make sure you know what you are doing and make sure this is your final decision.

http://pregnancy.lovetoknow.com/wiki/Side_Effects_of_Getting_Tubes_Tied

:) hope this helps.

x ilovebowsandcherries x

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