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writes:I am 15 and i have just found out i am pregnant, im not sure what i want to do yet. When i think about getting an abortion it makes me sick to the stomach but im not sure keeping it is the best option. my main worry is my parents, i dont know how to tell them or how they are going to react, someone please help !!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): Abortions are traumatic. So is adoption. And so is keeping the baby. The only painless option is not getting pregnant.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (7 August 2010):
 Our Dear Aunt Tisha gave me this website address, which I think will be most helpfull to you.
http://www.momdadimpregnant.com/
Please contact your doctor, at 15 you should be old enough to be seen without your parents, and they should keep everything confidential. It's important that you do not go through this alone, a doctor can help you get advice about what are the best choices for you.
Tell you mum, she loves you, she may shout a little bit, but your the most precious thing in the world to her, and she'd be so upset and distressed if she knew you were frightened of her and was sitting here worrying all alone..
Please go tell your mum, she always has been, and will be your very best friend.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (7 August 2010):
 Having a baby at 15 is going to mess up your life in a big way. Wait another 10 or 15 years.
I'm a father of 2 young girls. What would I want them to do in this situation? Most important, tell me quickly. You have already made a bad decision don't make the situation worse by procrastinating.
"Daddy, you know I love you so much?" "I've done something really really stupid and I need your help...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2010): Obviously you made a mistake in getting in to all of that at this age. even medically , doctor would say that it is risk at this young age. Also motherhood at your age a child or teen also takes away lot of things from you. You may just be not ready for being a mother.Unfortunatly this universe is cause and result based universe and you are here at this point because of all your KARMAs ( (thoughts + actions + habbits ) and there is no way you can escape the results. Now for future destiny, i think purify your KARMAs, to shape up your remaining future. Either you become a mother to this child, and marry the father a live a married life-- choice number 1.. ( if he ready for it, if you was just a time pass for him , then obviously you have even bigger issue ) Choice number 2 is --- Abort the child and never get in to all that what you have been doing-- till the time you plan for it..in other options , your life will be even more complicated.i do not know all the details, but you need to decide based on your situations. As far as you parents are concerned, say sorry and tell it all. they will shout, but finally they will be with you, ( If there is no family complication like step dad or step MOM etc etc ) We need to bring in some traditional values back in order to be happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2010): Unfortunately there are possible consequences for actions. It kinda sucks that you can get pregnant from sex, but it is a fact of life.Abortions are very traumatic and I do not recommend it at all. Especially if you already don't feel comfortable with it.Do you know who the father is? You will need to tell him and his parents too.If he's a trustworthy guy who can't do a runner i.e. lives with his parents, still at school etc. Tell him first. Then tell your parents with him. And then you two tell his parents. My advice would be to keep the baby and give it up for adoption. Arranging the adoption before birth is probably best. I feel really bad for you because your whole life has changed. What ever happens, what ever you decide to do about it your life has changed for good. But you must remember everything has consequences. Even protected sex is not 100% safe against pregnancy or STDs. The ONLY thing that is 100% safe is abstinence. Think about that before you have sex again. For now, try not freak out too much. Go and see a doctor, with or without your parents. There are many organisations designed to help girls in your position. Google them and see which one is nearest to you that can help you out.Other than that I don't know what to say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2010): Your parents will always be there no matter what. If your parents are too in your face try talking to a doctor they could help you. If your under 6weeks you can take two pills which is no where near as bad as giving an abortion. Don't have this baby if it is the wrong decision and the wrong move to make. I know it maybe upsetting, but there are people advice lines you can talk to deal with this situation. But if you do decide to keep this baby do it for the right reasons not the wrong. Good luck
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