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female
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30-35,
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writes:My boyfriend has been lying to me for 6 months. We've been together for 9 months. He was a constant chewer before he met me. In the beginning of our relationship I asked him periodically to quit because i find that habit repulsive. He just laughed it off and kept doing it. This went on for 3 months before i sat him down and told him that if he doesn't quit it's going to cause serious problems in our relationship.I wanted him to quit firstly, because it's terrible for your mouth, and secondly because i hate it.He promised me he would quit and i believed him. His friends all do it so I knew it would be a challenge for him, but i was really proud of him when he stuck to it, and i told him so. I was proud of him for 6 months.(Also, he was a minor when most of this occurred and he just recently turned 18) Yesterday, I just found out that he has been chewing every time he drinks with his friends. He has done it several times. I even stood up for him to my friends and said he was better than lying when they used to ask me if he still chewed.I confronted him about it and he admitted it. He apologized profusely and said that wasn't who he was. He said he was still used to being the "old him" around his friends. I feel so betrayed. He's been lying to me all this time. Yes, Im upset that he chewed, but I'm more upset that he lied to me about it numerous times. I don't know how to trust him anymore. Should i trust him? I'm just so lost over all of this.(For all of you who would just laugh this off and say it's not a serious matter at all, it was to me. It makes me feel like he didn't respect me enough to even try.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): Someone's a little bit a control freak. Learn to accept he likes to chew.
If you insist he stops, let him change something about you then. It's only fair.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (7 August 2010):
 Dump him. I't only been 9 months, don't sit around to wait for more disappointments. He lied to your face on numerous occasions. Why excuse that? Why accept that?
I say, you don't have kids and a house or are married. If you were more seriously involved I would suggest to work through it. But so early on in the relationship, you will win nothing and possibly loose everything. Lying. For 6 months. Thats over half of your relationship. I don't see this as something worth spending more time on.
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