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writes:Dear Cupid.I'm A 14 Year Old Virgin.I'm Wanting To Loose This. But Im Very Uptight About The Effects.My Boyfriend Says It Will Only Hurt A Little, But I Beg To Differ.My Friends Say When They Lost It( between the ages or 14 - 16)It Hurt them And They Have Pain For 2-3 Days.I'm Scared Of This Because I Want To Share ThisWith My Boyfriend, The Love Not Pain Lol.But I Don't Want The Pains Because I'm A EmotionalPerson And My Parents Will Notice The Difference.Does It Hurt Or Do You Bleed?Basicly What Are Other Effect Besides BleedingOn First Try? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): you do realize that you're FOURTEEN right? please, i'm begging you, don't do this. if your boyfriend really loves you, he'll wait. it sounds cliche, but it's true.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): Why lose your virginity when you're only 14?
Are you sure you want to lose it now?
When you think about it, you want to be in a good, stable relationship with someone who you are comfortable with and can trust. At 14, this isn't usual.
I'd suggest you wait until your older, then you know you've lost it at the right time, to the right person.
Would you rather lose it at 14 to someone who you don't trust, or lose it at 18 with someone you love and trust.
I know which I'd choose.
It will hurt probably, due to the fact you're body isn't developed and you probably won't be relaxed due to your choice of person to lose it to. If you don't love them and trust them with your body, you won't be relaxed so it will hurt.
Don't forget, when you DO do it (hopefully in the future when you're fully ready), use a condom. :)
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reader, JustMeReally +, writes (25 August 2008):
 Side effects? You can feel alot of regret, get pregnant, get an sti, be in alot of pain for days after.. Thats all i can think of really lol but with alot of lube, protection, and patience it shouldnt be too bad.
Losing your virginity shouldnt be a race just something that happens naturally at its own pace xx
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reader, saltwater +, writes (25 August 2008):
 14 is too young to have sex.
You're body isn't fully developed yet...so it is likely sex will hurt more when you are 14 than when you are, say, 18.
Please think carefully about whether you really want sex -- don't let your boyfriend pressure you into sex. if you're are not ready.
Make sure you are safe if you do have sex.
Be aware that sex at 14 will not be a pleasureable experience for you.
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): Apprantely it doesn't always bleed, but usually quite likely. The thing that makes it hurt is your hymen, which can break by doing horse-riding, sports or just randomly.
14 is too young to have sex - stereotypically. You might wanna do it, but your body might not be fully grown. Which basically means your not physically ready to have sex yet.
If you wanna have sex though I'm not gonna fight against it. It could hurt, it probably will heart. Friends that have told me said it hurt and they started crying during it but they continued because 'its gotta happen sometime'.
It depends on different people. Its really up to you.
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