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writes:OK so me and this boy had sex twice about a month apart.. and i think I'm pregnant but i don't know he didn't wear a condom he thinks they are stupid and he use the pullout method the first time he discharge on the backseat..(we did it a car)and the second time on the floor and some on me it(at my house) and i didn't clean it off me and i think some of it might have gotten into my vagina... I'm only 14 and not ready for this!!
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reader, blackblackheart  +, writes (6 August 2010):
If you're not ready for pregnancy, you're not ready for sex. Not only is it illegal for you to have sex because you're so young, but since your body is still growing it can cause harm to your genitals.
Even if a man doesn't come inside you, as in you still have sex but he pulls out, you can get pregnant from his pre-come. The chances that you are pregnant now are very high, and you need to see a doctor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): Ohh god,there might be a chance you're pregnant well at first if you're bf thinks condoms are stupid tell him whaat about you raise a child? You're 14 you're ofc not ready for this yet. Please you should check a doctor a.s.a.p and then see if you can get some really professionaal help so that everything will be back to normal. Plus goshh you could have taken a virus like SIDA and many others. Do talk to your mom you will feel much better I promise. Although she will get mad but you can always tell her that you didn't want sex and things. As for thee guy, I hope that he can think at least about the results of his stupid acts, he sounds bad I hope that you won't get involved with him anymore. Best luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): Oh dear, at 14 you are far from ready for this, and you must seek advice from a professional IF you miss your next period. As for the boy thinking condoms are stupid, so what if he does, it's not going to be him to carry a child for nine months. And as harsh as this might sound, IF you are not responsible enough to make sure you take precautions, not only from pregnancy, but STD's then I'm afraid, you are not old enough to be having sex. Which you're not anyway.
As I say, I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but the reality is, IF you don't save sex for someone special and ONLY to be shared in a loving relationship, sadly, you will end up having just sex in the back of cars or on floors with boys who do not care for one second longer than it takes for them to take their pleasure and leave you.
I keep on saying this, but sex is not just something you do with a guy like saying hello, or shaking his hand.
So please, if there is any sign you have missed your next period, get a pregnancy test, and DO seek some professional help, doctor etc. Talk to your Mom.
Hopefully you are not pregnant, as this would be difficult for you to come to terms with, and to make decisions, a girl of 14 should not have to make. So perhaps this will serve as a precautionary eye-opener that YOU MUST take responsibility for yourself, and you must take precautions if you are going to have sex, regardless of what excuse the boy comes out with - If he doesn't want to take equal responsibility, using condoms, then you don't have sex with him. It's as clear cut as that, because if you don't take precautions, you will find yourself many times worrying if you're pregnant, so please be sensible.
Good luck, I hope this works out for you, I really do, you are so young!
Jilly x
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reader, Philosophyzer +, writes (29 June 2010):
 Well, there is a chance you might be pregnant, I am sorry to say. "Pulling out" is never a safe method for having sex. Men can ejaculate what is called pre-cum before the actual, final ejaculation, which still contains sperm and can get your pregnant. Condoms are not "stupid". They are a MUST. Not only has pregnancy been risked, but it is also possible that you might have contracted an STD.
So, a key question to ask is if you have missed any periods, or menstruation cycles. If you have, it is likely you could be pregnant. Though, this is not a fool proof indicator. You need to purchase an at home pregnancy test and see what happens. If you are pregnant, you need to tell a parent, a guardian, or some type of adult, who can help you. If that is not possible, find a women's clinic or Planned Parenthood.
If you are pregnant, this will forever change your life. You need to think of your options: abortion, adoption, or keeping it. This is a tough decision and you will need guidance. Don't go through it alone.
Regardless of being pregnant, you need to be tested for any diseases. Some diseases, if left undetected and unchecked, can leave a woman infertile or with cervical cancer.
You know, I don't want to come off rude or like I'm lecturing you, sweetie, but this could have been avoided. Never let a boy tell you a condom is "stupid". Only make decisions, such as to begin having sex, when you are mature enough to understand the consequences. How old is this boy? You said you were in a car. He might be much older than you and this could potentially be illegal.
Please, be smart and safe. If possible, stay away from this boy. He sounds like bad news. But, regardless, I wish you the best and hope this advice helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): the pull out method isnt reliable enough at all. never have sex with a guy without a condom beause 'he thinks theyre stupid' technically youre too young to be having sex but if you are going to then you have to make sure you are safe. Go see your doctor or take a test. You need to use condoms due to STDs but if you are not pregnant now get yourself on the pill or another form of contraception now so it doesnt happen in the future. And that doesnt mean stop using condoms. use both then youll be much safer
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