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14 & lost my V-card

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Question - (4 January 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 4 November 2009)
A female United States age 30-35, *oYou5194 writes:

I just moved to a new city same state. At my old school I was just getting involed with boys. I was in 7th grade then. And now I am in 8th and I moved here over the summer.So Im in 8th grade now suopose to be in 9th. But lately I have been making out with diff boys and that already messed up my rep at a new school. But I never use to be like this it's like I've changed or somethin. But I just meet this boy who is very attractive and good looking. And alot of girls think that he is cute and like him. Now im not the girl to fall for a boy reall. Because alot of boys always like me and theirs always more than one falling for me even now. But anyways One day my friend invited him to the park and she invited me to because I live close. So I go not knowing that he was there. So it was about 10:30p.m and she had to go wit her step dad. So he was going to walk me home. So me and him strated to talking as he walked me home and we ended up talkin about who we liked. He wouldnt tell me but I knew it was me. but I didnt want it to be me cuz my friend liked him. But I liked someone else that I was still talking to. So by the time we got to my house he told me that it was me that he liked. So he gave me his number and ever since then we were talking constantly. Now one day he wanted to meet up like around my house and I did but the first time we kissed it felt so amazing. But I felt guilty cuz i was tlking to sum 1 and he was tlking to my friend that liked him but he didnt like her. So After that I tld him that I felt that way. And he knew about the other boy and he didnt care. He just told me that he dosent like my friend and he likes me not her. So me and him kept meeting up. Every meeting became more and more intimate. We were'nt boyfriend girlfriend just friends of benefits. So he stop talking to my friend but no one knew me and him met up at night i would sneak out to meet him and our little spot. So we finally got into the topic about sex while texting . And one day he made a remark to me bcuz he found out that I had made out with this boy along time ago. So he said"So do you do the same things you do with me with the other boys"?. And I replided" No! And y does it matter that happened along time ago." And I said "So do you beleive me that i dont do the same thing?" And he jus said " We'll see." And by that I knew he wanted some. So he kept askin if I kuld go over. And I finaly went to his house on a day no one had skool and both r parents had work. And I really think I mean KNOW i did it for the wrong reason. And the next day I go to school and he told people and now everyone knew. So even though I didnt like him I was in it for the benefits too. I got hurt in the end cuz its like I would have never thought him out of all people would do such a thing. Up to last week he is still trying to have me go over his house. But all I want to do is like meet up again at our spot not his house. I think now that we went all the way he thinks their would be no use in just making out like b4 when you can go all the way. But I've ben making excuse on why i cant come to his house. But Im still really hurt on the fact that we dont see each other becuz we did it, And alot of boys r still trying to be my bf and get wit me but Im just tired of everything and dont want new boys I jus wanna stick with what I had.

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A female reader, DoYou5194 United States +, writes (4 November 2009):

DoYou5194 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

DoYou5194 agony auntIt's almost a year later since this situation and I have a boyfriend who i've been with for five months now. And I am happy now,,

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (4 January 2009):

Honeypie agony auntI can understand that being new is hard and you wanted to fiting, but having sex with different boys in not the way to do it. Stop trying to please the boys. Get to know them, really know them without being intimate. And dating/hooking up with a guy you know your friend is into, is a sure way to lose friends. He obviously only wanted to hook up with you cause he knew he might get some, and he did.

Now you know, that some boys will say/do whatever, to get you to have sex with them, just so they can brag. Not a nice feeling. This is why you need to take it slow and really get to know the person.

Learn from what happened and slow down girl.

Maybe you should give the boys a break and focus on yourself, your self esteem and school.

Chin up and good luck.

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A male reader, karldlewis United Kingdom +, writes (4 January 2009):

It seems to me that you have been leading him on a bit so you can't be so suprised that you got yourself in this situation. What you need to do now is to talk to him about the relationship that you want and if he can't provide it than maybe you should call the whole thing off.

Make sure the next time you have sex whether with him or someone else that it's when you both want it and that the relationship is serious.

Finally without trying to sound like a massive geek make sure your studies do get a look in - I'm not saying don't have a life just make sure you give them a bit of time.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2009):

If you don't want to have sex with him then you should tell him about how you feel. You should tell him how he hurt you and that these were the reasons why you were avoiding him. You should try and not avoid him because that does not sort the problem you are just buying yourself some time. If your friend understands then he will take it slow and if he doesn't understand then he doesn't really care about your feelings and just wants to get you in bed and show off about it but I think the best thing to do is to talk to him and tell him how you used to prefer it before and how you want it to be like that again.

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A female reader, DoYou5194 United States +, writes (4 January 2009):

DoYou5194 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

DoYou5194 agony auntThanks for You're Advice!!

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