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writes:I'm 18, and have been seeing a 42 year old man. He is married with kids. It all started when I spent the whole night working with him on his truck that broke down. He's a mechanic witch is what I would like to be when I'm finnished highschool. After that one night I was incredibly bored and so was he, he asked me over the computer if I wanted to go with him so he can get coffee and smokes. I went and that's when he started, he put his hand on my leg and we kissed a bit. That night he made me feel so scared and nervous and good all at once. I've never felt any think like that before witha guy. The next time we saw eachother I was taking the dog for a walk and he conviently had his truck parked at the park I was visiting. We went for a walk and spent some time on the playground. We kissed and cuddled and hugged, he also started to touch my boobs, and ass. Im a virgin and eventually he's going to push further and want more, I see myself having sex with this guy but not any time soon. I know he's married but it seems his relationship with her isn't that great or else he wouldent be sneaking around with me. So my question was can some one help me with what to do and not to do with a much older married man. And help with some moves to keep him happy with out having sex.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (17 August 2010):
 His relationship with his woman is fine. Like you said he is bored, and your a willing virgin just ready for sex without commitment. He doesn't have to promise you anything, he doesn't have to give you gifts or presents or take you out anywhere. His wife will never find out. He gets sex free and easy, it will help to pass the time before he returns home to his wife and children after playing with you all evening.
Think of yourself as a toy, cause that's the way he see's you right now.
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reader, Carrot2000  +, writes (17 August 2010):
 Don't be naive: just because he's sneaking around with you doesn't mean things aren't good at home. A man like this will jump on an opportunity to screw a virginal 18 year old and not give a second thought to how you are feeling. He will string you along until his wife finds out or dealing with you become less exciting and more of a burden.
Use your head. Where do you see this going? Are you prepared to deal with a confrontation from his wife? Do you understand that a person who is unfaithful is also a liar and that he's likely lying to you about everything? As exciting as the prospect of this "relationship' may seem, you're cheapening yourself and setting yourself up for heartache.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (15 August 2010):
 I'm sorry darling but it does sound like the man is using you. Married men are best avoided - trust me, I have the scars (thankfully mental) to know. Even when they tell you they're a step away from divorce, they're best avoided. Now it's not a lesson I always follow myself but you're just starting out and it's something you need to know.
Apart from that, if you want to persist with him (which, I repeat, I would not if I were you) without losing your virginity, you've got hands and a mouth for a reason.
Once again, drop this guy. Find someone your own age who is single.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): You're really willing to risk breaking up a marriage, losing your virginity, losing your self-respect and quite frankly your reputation for someone who just wants to feel you up, use you and then dump you? Sounds like a stupid and darn right FOOLISH decision to make!
On top of that, if he is not faithful and loyal to his wife, if he were ever in a relationship with you, what makes you think he would stay loyal to YOU?
Ditch the loser and get on with your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): "I know he's married but it seems his relationship with her isn't that great or else he wouldent be sneaking around with me."
Wrong. His relationship might be going just fine with her and he might still wanna screw around on the side.
It's time to grow up honey. There may not be anything excusable about what he is doing. You can blame him for lying to you when this eventually blows up in your face, but you still have to look yourself in the mirror later on. If you bullshit yourself then you will hurt yourself most of all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): you better tell him that you are not ready for it and you are virgin.and try to convince him that you got a boyfriend and need not to have sex until you got married
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reader, Chippy2 +, writes (15 August 2010):
What to do and not do with a much older married man? DO NOTHING with him!
The fact that he is interested and touching you has NOTHING to do with what he is getting at home. He will get what he can when he can get it. You are young and naive and he knows it.
Think of it this way. He is a big shark with teeth that can rip you apart - both mentally and physically. You my dear have a huge sign on you that says 'Tasty Shark TREAT!'
Stay clear of him - if you want to become a mechanic keep your sites on that - cause if this goes bad and it will - being a mechanic is the last thing you will want to be if you have sex with him or even up to it and he hurts you.
A married man is already TAKEN. He doesnt respect you or her or himself. I know that is hard to hear but he is a cheater and I am sure there are plenty of single guys your age interested in you.
This man can give you no real time - and you definately dont want him to be your first sexual partner. In the long run you wont feel good about that one day if you ever marry. And even now as he is touching your ass and boobs for a few moments at the park think what he is doing with the wife who he sleeps with everynight!
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